Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
The quiet heroism of thousands of working girls can be appreciated only by
those who become familiar with their lives in the natural intercourse of
club life. There is, of course, the other type of girl--the girl who
insists on spending the major portion, if not all, of her wages for
clothes; who assumes no responsibility for the family, and who has conceded
to her the right to spend her money for clothes. She would make life most
uncomfortable if she were compelled to share what she earned, even when the
family live under conditions that make the home merely a place of
shelter--conditions that make even decency impossible. The fathers and
mothers seemingly have no rights that this type of girl feels she is bound
to respect. When such girls marry, the mothers will do the washing for
their daughters, hold the menial relation, and neither mother nor daughter
questions the justice of the relation. Sometimes the daughter will pay the
mother for doing the washing, "to," as she expresses it, "help her mother
out." Such families usually cannot be helped through any influence but the
evolution that comes through environment and neighborhood development.
There is a superficial difference in the social development of such parents
and children. The parents concede the higher position to their children,
and the children take it as a matter of right.
The wages of skilled workmen enable them to keep their children in school
until they are sixteen or seventeen years old, if the children will stay.
These fathers can support their families, but not dress them as they
desire. The girls go to work for the sole purpose of dressing better than
their fathers could dress them. This indulgence creates false standards,
and is a serious blot on the American working-man's life. It prevents
marriage. Both young men and young women understand that the wages of one
cannot buy luxuries for two that the wages used for one bought. The army of
clerks on small salaries increase yearly. This class, through association,
develop tastes and standards of living that make impossible the
establishment of homes on their incomes and at the same time the continued
indulgence of developed tastes. No type of family develops less that adds
to the wealth and attainment of the country than this type. The children
are selfish; they marry; they discover that the wages that bought clothes
to suit the extravagance of one is wholly inadequate to support a family.
Discouragement, friction, ennui follow, and life becomes a grind, without
hope, without inspiration. The second family slips backward, and it is but
two generations from shirt sleeves to shirt sleeves, with this difference,
that the arms covered by the shirt sleeves of the third generation lack the
muscles of the first, as the spirit lacks its moral fiber. It is this type
of family that keeps alive the most vexing of social problems. The skilled
working-man's family, the family of the small salaried men, present the
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