Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
There are homes in the tenements where the wages of the earners make a
family income, in which all share equally, independent of the amount
contributed. There is a bank account. It may be in the joint name of father
and mother, but it is far more commonly the unquestioned property of the
mother. The children look upon this as the protection of the parents from
dependence in old age, should it not be called upon by illness or
misfortune. Such families represent the highest moral development in
tenement-house life. The children have been trained to appreciate
educational opportunities, and school is through childhood an important
factor in life. When the wage-earning period comes, night-school advantages
are appreciated and used. When the work is chosen, some thought is given to
the promise of future wage-earning powers by the acquiring of skill in that
employment. The maximum wages possible at the present time is not the
controlling element in the decision. The future is not sacrificed to the
present. Such a home is kept, no matter how small, in a condition that
makes social life in it possible.
Hallways, street corners, store steps are not the only places for the
development of the social instincts of the members of such families. After
marriage the family is united, and home, though it be in the top of a
tenement, is the Mecca for children and grandchildren.
At the other end of the social scale in this world of workers is the
happy-go-lucky family. Here the system of financial management has its
faults, but much is found that is better than wisdom in money matters.
Spending extravagantly when there is money, going without cheerfully when
there is none. Why, the going without is scarcely treated even with the
respect of making it a subject of conversation. The habit of sharing when
any member has anything to share becomes a fixed habit, and "mine" and
"thine" are not in the family vocabulary. The result is a close and
inter-dependent family relation, of which the mother is the center. Often
you will find that this mother has never had any clothes that would do to
wear on the street, except to early Mass, if she is a Romanist, or that she
rarely goes to church, if a Protestant, because her clothes are not what
she calls "fit." Her life is the gospel of unselfishness, and she reaps the
reward of love. One may fret at the waste, resent the short-sightedness,
which means ignorance and shiftlessness; but there is so much pleasure in
these families, so much that means happiness in them, that one even learns
to forget the frets. They never grow beyond childhood in worldly wisdom,
and childhood is always attractive. It is so rich in promise. Happiness is
the cement of human life. Poverty does not change its power of holding the
members together through weal or woe. There is a common inheritance of
memories that never lose their power of cohesion where love and friendship
reign in families.
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