Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
Among the discoveries the explorer into this world makes is that life is
full of compensations. One learns to overlook bad housekeeping, when it is
discovered that a cross, impatient word is never spoken by the
house-mother; that the children are the companions of the mother; that no
one else is so attractive; that she is never too busy to listen to anything
that interests them. One learns to forgive the needlessly shabby dressing
of children, when it is discovered that they are well nourished and cared
for, and that the husband and father never fails to declare that his wife
is the best cook in the city and always has his meals on time. Usually this
mother is fat, full of fun, and laughs as though tears were not in the
world.
Order, cleanliness and economy do not appeal as cardinal virtues when it is
found that there is no room for the children in the house, no money to buy
them the smallest pleasure where these over-estimated virtues predominate.
It is found usually that the worry of maintaining standards that ignore
the rights of the family, and to which they have been sacrificed, have
seared the mother's head and heart, and she no longer responds to the
maternal emotions; she becomes the victim of her own habits and cannot
reform. Perhaps it is this type of woman who creates the most barren home;
the one that is quite as prolific a source of supply to the saloons and the
streets as that of the degenerate housekeeper out of whose life spiritual
impulse has departed, and into which ideals and ambitions were never born.
It is difficult at times to decide whether to laugh at or resent the
criticisms one often hears of the extravagances of the poor. When one
becomes familiar with the demands for rent, coal, shoes, for clothes that
must be worn to work and school; for the things the cost of which cannot be
put below a certain sum--food always can be regulated--and compares these
fixed charges with the income available, the management of money in the
independent working man's family amounts to genius, and it must take
generations of economists to produce it.
Unfortunately, in New York emphasis is laid on clothes. Extravagance in
dress is the habit of the city. The people seen in the streets, in the
stores, in public conveyances, show a singular uniformity in clothes; this
is as true of men as of women. The differences are in manners and English.
The spirit of the land is as yet materialistic, and the democratic spirit
shows itself in the outward forms. The tailor-made gown was not looked upon
as a regenerator of æsthetic standards, but it has proved that. Its
simplicity and durability has released money that formerly was used in
useless trimming. The ready-trimmed hat is also a lever in throwing the
scale in the right direction.
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