Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
How well one must know this part of the wage-earning world before it is
possible to appreciate the fact that the boy is being trained by "his baby"
for that future when he will share with the mother of his child its care.
It is a constant revelation to find how intelligent the young men at this
level are about children, and how frankly and unconsciously they will
express it and condemn the ignorant or careless treatment of a child. The
relation of the wage-earning children to the little children is paternal
often. The little ones know that the elder ones work and care for them, and
they render an obedience that is often amusing. With sisters this takes
another form. If the elder girl has ideas and tastes, especially if she has
skill, she will often entirely decide how the younger children shall dress;
often the younger children would not be at all satisfied with clothes the
elder girls did not select and design. Here again will be found a
half-maternal attitude that secures obedience and regulates privileges;
that sometimes ignores the rightful authority in the home. The young girl
who has an elder sister working and secures work with her is considered
very fortunate. Two sisters are known, now past middle life. One is quite a
handsome woman, the other plain. The handsome sister is the younger; she
never, when she was a wage-earner, went through the streets alone. The
elder sister, when they did not work together, escorted the younger one
back and forth to her work. Now, the mother of three children, nothing
could persuade her to go on the streets alone beyond the corner store. Her
husband, in a city department on a small salary, always attends her in
shopping expeditions, and all social engagements are made with respect to
his hours of freedom. She receives a wealth of love, and tenderness, and
protection. Selfish? Yes, till one wonders at the blindness of those who do
her homage.
[Illustration: A LITTLE FATHER.]
Once a very sensible wife and mother, whose intelligence and devotion are
raising the family many degrees above that of the generation preceding her
and her husband, said: "I shall watch my children. My mother let one of my
sisters exact far more than her share of wages. She coaxed or cried, or
both, until she got what she wanted. The rest of us gave in, because we
would not worry mother; you see that, now we are all married, she expects
us to save her from worry and work; we have to; she cannot get along." In
a moment she continued: "Haven't you seen it, that in every large family
there is one who gets more and gives less than the others?" A statement
profoundly true, but not confined to any one social level.
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