Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
By this time the mental attitude of every woman in the alleys had changed
toward her home. Positive determination to overcome inertia, or ambition to
excel, it was impossible to create. Innate predilections were the chief
factor in individual development among the women. What a woman liked to do
she attempted to learn how to do, or what she found she could do most
easily. Some would learn to cook who absolutely refused to sew; some would
sew who refused to cook; some would take care of the babies while the
mothers were learning who would neither cook nor sew, feeling they could do
both well enough; these it was impossible to make home-makers. The shackles
of the past could never be thrown off wholly by the home-makers in the
alleys. The children responded; could be won by personal affection, by
prizes, by the mother's insistence. For it was soon learned that nimble
fingers in the home lightened the mother's work; but the mothers were the
unwilling victims of their own past.
The use of money was the most difficult lesson of all to teach. If there
was money, the food was bought lavishly; pennies were given freely to the
children. If there was no money, the barrenness was accepted even
cheerfully. Wages were given at the maximum weekly amount remembered. No
deductions were made for idle days. It requires a knowledge of advanced
arithmetic to adjust intelligently forty weeks of wages to fifty-two weeks
of expenses. It requires more than an elementary knowledge of arithmetic to
adjust five days' wages to the seven days' expenses, fixed and emergency,
of a growing family. When a week comes that brings six or seven days'
wages, is it a marvel that in view of the many weeks of imposed
restrictions this week of wealth should be welcomed as a period of freedom
from care? That the money should be lavishly used? It takes the ability to
think, to connect cause and effect, imagination, to see possible results,
memory of experiences to hold men and women constantly in check, and this
means mental training. Not a woman in the alley had attended school
regularly during even the short period of her school life; each one had
gone to work the moment she could earn money. Neither she nor any one about
her questioned the value of the work she found to do beyond the money it
gave at once. Nobody ever thought of the present as in relation to the
future. Now that she was a mother, she met life the same way. Her children
must earn money. To make sacrifices that their wage-earning capacity in the
future might be greater would, if suggested to her, have been merely an
evidence of how little the rich know of life. What was the estimate of life
these mothers in the alley made? The differences between them were
external, not mental. One answers for nearly all. To get as much comfort
out of to-day as possible and to-morrow work hard, and be careful. To the
majority that to be used to-morrow never came. When plenty came, it was
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