The Library of Work and Play: HousekeepingGilman, Elizabeth Hale
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The Library of Work and Play: Housekeeping
Gilman, Elizabeth Hale
Home economics
There is an odd sort of innate privacy about money matters. Children
are taught that it is ill-bred to open other peoples' pocketbooks or
checkbooks, or to ask them what their possessions cost. As they grow
up they find that business affairs are considered confidential, and
that no honourable person investigates another's money affairs without
some authority. It is desirable that these rules of honour should be
preserved, and one simple way to help in this is to arrange that each
member of the family has an allowance, if it is only five cents a
week--an allowance for which he is responsible to himself alone. These
allowances should go down in the family accounts as "Allowances," the
details belong to the individual. The members of families in which this
arrangement is made should conscientiously keep their private expenses
within the amount agreed upon, for allowances not only teach the
right of individual privacy, they teach that old and difficult lesson
that "you can't eat your cake and have it too";--that one can't have
marbles and candy the same week. An allowance also supplies each person
with something to give away, which is really his to give. He may not
have earned it by work, but he has earned it by going without something
he would have liked to spend it for. There is yet another purpose
which allowances serve. They help to prevent the failure of a plan of
expenditure. For they keep a strict and careful plan from becoming a
galling chain. They prevent the absorption of personal privacy and
freedom by the regulations of the family as a group against which the
individual, sooner or later, invariably rebels.
"The Tenth" is that part of the family income, more or less than an
actual tenth, which is given away. It is not mine to offer advice as
to the size or use of this division. I merely emphasize its necessity.
It is the small thing, which keeps meanness and bitterness out of the
management of scanty means, and selfishness and brutality out of the
management of ample means. Establish a give-away division in your plan,
for the sake of your own disposition, if you are not urged to it by any
other consideration.
Next to this division, which is considered the generous
division, comes one which has a less agreeable reputation, but
undeservedly--"Savings." Many people who will say giving is a good
thing, will deny that saving is. And is it? Why? What is it for? It is
to provide those who suffer adversity, or who live to old age, against
becoming a "public charge"; or against dependence upon relatives and
friends. There is a fine honour in not taking the risk of these things.
One ought to be willing to struggle hard and self-denyingly to save
oneself and one's family from becoming burdens to other people.
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