Women -- History; Women -- Psychology; Women -- Social conditions
Such searching and sifting is taking place in the consciences of
many women of this generation whose sufferings, although strikingly
influencing conduct, are seldom expressed in words until they are
told in the form of reminiscence after the edges have been long since
dulled. Such sufferings are never so poignant as when women have
been forced by their personal experiences to challenge the valuable
conventions safeguarding family life.
A woman whom I had known slightly for many years came to Hull-House
one day escorted by her little grandson. Her delicate features, which
were rather hard and severe, softened most charmingly as the little boy
raised his cap in good-by from the vanishing automobile. In reply to
my admiring comment upon the sturdy lad and his affectionate relation
to her, she startled me by saying abruptly, “You know he is really not
my grandson. I have scarcely admitted the doubt before, but the time
is coming when I must face it and decide his future. If you are kind
enough to listen, I want to tell you my experience in all its grim
sorrow.
“My husband was shot twenty-seven years ago, under very disgraceful
circumstances, in a disreputable quarter of Paris; you may remember
something of it in the newspapers, although they meant to be
considerate. I was left with my little son, and with such a horror of
self-indulgence and its consequences, that I determined to rear my
child in strict sobriety, chastity, and self-restraint, although all
else were sacrificed to it. Through his school and college days, which
I took care should be far from his father’s friends and associations,
I always lived with him, so bent on rectitude and so distressed by any
lack of self-control that I see now how hard and rigorous his life
must have been. I meant to sacrifice myself for my child, in reality I
sacrificed him to my narrow code.
“The very June that he took his master’s degree, I myself found him,
one beautiful morning, lying dead in his own room, shot through the
temple. No one had heard the report of the revolver, for the little
house we had taken was so on the edge of the college town that the
neighbors were rather remote, and he must have killed himself while I
sat in the moonlight, on the garden bench, after he had left me, my
mind still filled with plans for his future.
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