Women -- History; Women -- Psychology; Women -- Social conditions
My old friend was quite unable to formulate the motives which underlay
her determination, but she implied that clinging to this helpless child
was part of her unwavering affection for her son when, without any
preamble, she concluded the conversation with the remark, “It’s the way
I always felt about him,” as if further explanation were unnecessary.
It was all doubtless a manifestation of Nature’s anxious care--so
determined upon survival and so indifferent to morals--that had induced
her long devotion to her one child least equipped to take care of
himself; and for the same reason the helpless little creature whose
existence no one else was deeply concerned to preserve had become so
entwined in her affections that separation was impossible.
From time to time a mother goes further than this, in her determination
to deal justly with the unhappy situation in which her daughter is
placed. When the mother of a so-called fallen girl is of that type
of respectability which is securely founded upon narrow precepts,
inherited through generations of careful living, it requires genuine
courage to ignore the social stigma in order to consider only the moral
development of her child, although the result of such courage doubtless
minimizes the chagrin and disgrace for the girl herself.
In one such instance the parents of the girl, who had been prevented
from marrying her lover because the families on both sides objected
to differences of religion, have openly faced the situation and made
the baby a beloved member of the household. The pretty young mother
arrogates to herself a hint of martyrdom for her faith’s sake, but the
discipline and responsibility are working wonders for her character.
In her hope of earning money enough for two, she has been stirred to
new ambition and is eagerly attending a business college. She suffers
a certain amount of social ostracism but at the same time her steady
courage excites genuine admiration.
In another case a fearless mother exacts seven dollars a week in
payment of the board for her daughter and the baby, although the
girl earns but eight dollars a week in a cigar factory and buys such
clothing for two as she can with the remaining dollar. She admits that
it is “hard sledding,” but that the baby is “mighty nice.” Whatever
her state of mind, she evidently has no notion of rebelling against
her mother’s authority, and is humbly grateful that she was not turned
out of doors when the situation was discovered. It is possible that
the mother’s remorse at her failure to guard her daughter from wrong
doing enables her thus grimly to defy social standards which, although
they are based upon stern and narrow tenets, nevertheless epitomize the
bitter wisdom of generations. Such mothers, overcoming that timidity
which makes it so difficult to effect changes in daily living, make a
genuine contribution to the solution of the vexed problem.
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