“As a walled town,” says Touchstone, “is worthier than a village, so is
the forehead of a married man more honourable than the bare brow of a
bachelor,” and Sam was married. He could lay that flattering unction
to his soul, could hold his head higher, because he was a ratepayer and
bore responsibilities, and went home at night to a house with a garden.
He did all that, and it was empty honour because success in marriage, as
in all else, is not to be had ready-made, but depends upon the will to
make adjustments.
The will can come best from passion, and there was no passion here to
tide them over the awkward age of marriage, the first difficult year
when the adjustments must, if ever, be made. Granted passion, a man can
love a woman whom he knows to be a murderess; let passion lack, and
he can fall out of love because the woman snores or is untidy. Sam’s
marriage was not made in heaven, but by Ada in Heaton Park, and with
a marriage so made it is as easy to fall out of love as off a house.
Little things count more than big when there is no passion to create its
life-long mirage.
If you cannot have the mirage of passion there is a useful substitute
called common sense, another name for compromise, and Ada refused to
compromise. She was for self, unmitigated and supreme. Ada left the
adjustments to Sam, and relaxed in nothing from her perfect selfishness.
The little thing which counted heavily against her, almost at once, was
simply that Ada was untidy. She did not invent places for things, or, if
she did, they were never used. She left her clothes downstairs after she
had been out, and the piano is not the place for a hat or the sofa
for an umbrella. It annoyed Sam to distraction to find her clothes
distributed about their bedroom, slung carelessly over chair backs,
pitched on the floor.
Men are not the untidy sex: the virtue of tidiness, like most others, is
evenly distributed. Sam was tidy by nature, and habit is stronger still.
Ada’s misfortune was that he was used to Anne, that Anne was neat and
Ada a slut. Sam did not know until he missed it how much he appreciated
Anne’s tidiness, how much he needed it and how much he hated untidiness
until he lived with it in Ada. In London, in the hotel, he had excused
what he saw of it, because it was in an hotel; which was also why there
had been little to see, by reason of a good chambermaid.
At home, it hurt him and he could do nothing. Ada did nothing, either.
She had not married for love, and one does not change a habit without
strong motive. His hints appeared to Ada peevish and unreasonable.
She thought he made mountains out of molehills and despised him for
small-mindedness; he thought a woman who could not put a petticoat into
a drawer when he asked her was wilfully provoking him.
She was not wilful of set purpose. She simply refused to disturb her
habits, to accommodate herself to him, to make a sacrifice to love. She
had no love to which to sacrifice.
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