The Mother's Manual of Children's DiseasesWest, Charles
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The Mother's Manual of Children's Diseases
West, Charles
Pediatrics -- Handbooks, manuals, etc.
One word more must be said with reference to that intense craving for
sympathy so characteristic of the child. It is this which often
underlies the disposition to exaggerate its ailments, or even to feign
such as do not exist, and in such attempts at deception it often
perseveres with almost incredible resolution. Over and over again I have
met with instances where the motives to such deception were neither the
increase of comfort nor the gratification of mere indolence; but the
monopolising the love and sympathy which during some bygone illness had
been extended to it, and which it could not bear to share again with its
brothers and sisters. This feeling, too, sometimes becomes quite
uncontrollable, and the child then needs as much care and as judicious
management, both bodily and mental, to bring it back to health, as
would be called for in the case of some adult hypochondriac or
monomaniac.
A caution may not be out of place as to the importance of not
ministering to this tendency to exaggerated self-consciousness by
talking of children's ailments in their hearing, or by seeming to notice
the complaints they make as though they were something out of the common
way.
It will be observed that throughout I have dwelt more on disorders of
the moral faculties than of the intellectual powers in childhood, and I
have done so because I believe them to be the more common and the more
important. In the feeble-minded the moral sense almost invariably
participates in the weakness of the intellect; but it is by no means
unusual for the former to be grievously perverted, while the
intelligence is in no respect deficient. The moral element in the child
seems to me to assert its superiority in this, that it is the most
keenly sensitive, the soonest disordered--
'Like sweet bells jangled, out of tune, and harsh,'
and the discord is first perceived in the finest notes.
To a very great extent, a mixture of vanity and of a morbid craving for
sympathy lie at the root of many of those perversions of character
which excite a parent's anxiety. One of these consists in an
over-scrupulousness with reference to the right or wrong of actions in
themselves quite indifferent; in doubts as to whether the morning or
evening prayer has been properly said, whether something was or was not
absolutely true, whether this or that peccadillo was a grievous offence
against God, and so on; and all these little cases of conscience are
brought by the child several times a day to his mother or to his nurse
for solution. If listened to readily the child's truthfulness becomes
inevitably destroyed, and he grows up with a morbid frame of mind, which
after-life will aggravate almost infinitely.
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