_We are ministered unto by the moonbeams and the starlight as well as by the god of day._ Romance is the color and the perfume of life. It is that which gives charm to living. Romance lures us to live. It called us into being, has bound us to life, and does not desert us at its close. Although Romance is the most intangible thing in the world, the moonshine of living, it is the most real. It is the will-o'-the-wisp that has led to all invasions, all discoveries, all victories, all heroism, all inventions, all arts, all business, all human endeavor. Without it there would be no marriage. The human race would cease to be. One of the myths in marriage is to assume that the Romance is all, or will continue under all conditions. Business belongs to the realm of fact and deals with tangible substances. It has to do with the practical part of life. It gives us food, clothing, shelter. It furnishes us great problems, exercise for body and mind. It is a great factor in the evolution of man. One of the myths in marriage is to assume that business and business struggles do not enter into the lives of lovers. The fact is that business occupies much of the time of every honest man and honest woman. It is necessary to life. Without work, romance would cease, the human race would die. The ideal and the real are interdependent in all phases of human life. In marriage there is a myth that the twain are one flesh. But the two are two, just as surely as one and one make two, unless neither is worth counting. It might not be such folly for a woman to trust her happiness to a man, if any man could make any woman happy. But happiness is within the power of the individual alone. Nature intended it to be so. If a woman were an incompetent, unable to earn or provide for herself, it might be well to leave her finances wholly in the hands of her husband. But women who have the right to give children to society are capable of taking care of themselves and financing their personal interests. Mothers should be thus capable. In marriage we must recognize the individuality in the partnership, just as we must the romance and the facts. A helpless, dependent, undeveloped, sentimental woman is not an inspirer of ideals. The man absorbed and involved in business is not an awakener or reminder of the Perfect. A little time is necessary for the appreciation of the beautiful, the charming, the wonderful in life. Leisure to think together and work together on things of mutual interest, is necessary to marriage, or there can be little love. When lovers are independently dependent upon each other, it is a wonderful privilege to meet. When lovers are economically free, as they were before marriage, there is no asking of favors nor demanding rights. When lovers are grateful for the privilege of being together, and meet only when it is a joy to do so, love will abide.