The omnipotent self, a study in self-deception and self-cureBousfield, Paul
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The omnipotent self, a study in self-deception and self-cure
Bousfield, Paul
Mental healing; Psychoanalysis
In the next place, let him see that this list is written so clearly
and accurately, that each of the aims is well defined and without
ambiguity. Now let him run through the list again, and see whether
any of the aims are in conflict with one another, and whether any of
them are inconsistent from the view point of his, and are therefore
impossible of fulfilment. Let him put his pencil definitely through
such impossible aims, and cut them out of his life, with as full a
realisation as possible of the fact that they are nothing but dreams,
that he need never consider them again, that he must not regret them,
for that is mere infantile crying after the impossible. He must
replace them in due course with others possible of fulfilment.
Now let him take the revised list and separate it into two divisions,
writing the aims down again under the two headings, (1) immediate aims,
and (2) remote aims. Here, he will have to bear in mind one of his
chief faults, if he be strongly Narcissistic. Such persons in their
phantasy carry their aims to completion long before reality can permit
of it. The time-factor is not realised, and hence they have a great
tendency to confuse remote aims with the immediate aims, in their
desire to see immediate results; hence, also, because they cannot soon
see such results, they give way to despair, become depressed, and have
the tendency to regress to the infantile characteristics to which I
have already referred. Here lies the importance of dividing the aims
into immediate and remote. For as soon as the individual’s mind has
grasped the fact that an aim is necessarily remote, and therefore
impossible of immediate fulfilment, he is much more able to adjust
himself to these facts, and to pay real and undivided attention to
the immediate present. Apart from the fact that sorting and adjusting
of the aims relieves the mind of many previous conflicts, it acts as
a stimulus to a considerable amount of directive thinking. And the
patient will be surprised at first to find the amount of time it is
possible to spend in a really useful recasting of his life interests.
It was not until the author, himself, took pencil and paper, and
classified his own aims, and put down the points for and against each,
and attempted to see the disharmonies existing amongst them, that he
realised the full value of this procedure. It might be thought that in
a very short period any person could put down all his aims, and that
but little modification would take place in them from day to day. This,
however, is very far from being true, as will be seen by anyone who
carries out this method fully.
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