It would not be difficult to trace directly to the discontinuance of
the practice of joining with the young in their amusements, the great
increase of youthful dissipation of every description. By being removed
from the advice, restraint and example of the old and experienced, they
have, by degrees, fallen into usages which were almost unknown in years
gone by. When accompanied by parents, the hours of pleasure were
seasonable. Daughters were under the inspection of mothers, and sons
were guided by the wisdom of fathers. Homes were happier, the community
more virtuous, and the world at large a gainer by such judicious
customs. We now hear the complaint that sons have gone astray, that
daughters have behaved indiscreetly, and that families have been
disgraced. But can there be a doubt, if the practice were general of
accompanying our children in those pastimes in which they ought to be
reasonably indulged, that many of these evils would be prevented? Here
then must begin the reform. Complain not that your son is out late, if
you might have been with him to bring him to your fire-side at a
seasonable hour. Complain not that your daughter has formed an
unsuitable or untimely connexion, if a mother's care might have avoided
the evil. Youth _will_ go astray without the protection of age. And it
is a crying sin that these old-fashioned moral restraints have been
removed. What, I ask, can be your object in thus leaving your children
to their own direction? Do they love you the better for it? Are their
manners more agreeable--their conduct more respectful while at home? Is
not rather the reverse of this the case? Do they not give you more
trouble at home? Are they not every day incurring new and useless
expenses in consequence of allowing them to legislate and plan for
themselves? Rashness is the characteristic of youth. But allowing them
to be capable of governing themselves, you are a great loser by drawing
this strong division line between their pleasures and your own. Your own
years are less in number and in happiness. Your children are dead to
you, though alive to themselves. Your sympathies are not linked with
theirs step by step in life; and thus, although surrounded by children,
you go childless, unhappy and gloomy to the grave. Reform then, I say,
reform at once. Annihilate this classification of junior and senior
pleasures. Join with your children in the dance, the song and the play.
Enjoy with them every harmless pleasure and sport of life. Encompass
yourself as often as possible with the gay faces of the young. Teach
them by example, to be happy like rational beings, and to enjoy life
without abusing it. Let the ripe fruit be seen with the green--the
blossom with the bud--the green with the fading leaf and the vine with
its natural support:
Show the ripe fruit with the green--
Fresh leaves twining with the sear;
As in tropic climes are seen
Harmonizing through the year.
AUTUMNAL DAYS.
By P. H. Greenleaf.
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