The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
Only less important than the relations of child-in-law and parent-in-law
are those of step-child and step-parent[111]; and such lesser degree of
importance as these have is due rather to the lesser frequency of their
occurrence than to any lesser significance which they possess for the
individuals actually concerned. The generally outstanding feature of
these relations is the manifestation of a more intense, or at any rate
a more open, form of those feelings and tendencies which would normally
exist between the child and the corresponding blood parent. A boy, for
instance, who may successfully have displaced or repressed his original
feelings of jealousy or hostility towards his own father, may often
prove incapable of carrying out a similar re-adjustment in the case of a
subsequently acquired step-father. The latter may have none of the glamour
which belonged to the former in virtue of his position as head of the
family (and therefore centre of the child's world) during the infancy of
the child (_cp._ p. 55) and which may have helped to inhibit the original
hostility experienced towards him through arousal of the opposite emotions
of love, gratitude or admiration. The step-father, therefore, may easily
re-awaken in his step-son any remnants of the hatred which the latter
may have experienced towards his real father, without re-awakening in
corresponding degree the compensating forces which kept the hate in check.
[Sidenote: "Hamlet" as a study of this relationship]
Furthermore, the boy's mother only marries the step-father after a period
of widowhood during which the boy may have appeared to possess the sole,
or at any rate the chief, claim upon her interest and affection. By her
re-marriage she will probably seem to the boy's unconscious mind to have
been, in a very real and poignant sense, unfaithful to himself, and
to have rejected his own love for that of an outsider; an idea which
may appear in consciousness in the rationalised form of an imputation
of unfaithfulness towards the mother's previous husband--the boy's
own father. It is a complex of feelings of this kind which, as Ernest
Jones[112] has so convincingly shown, underlies and forms the principal
psychological motive in Shakespeare's tragedy of "Hamlet". It is this
which is the cause of Hamlet's vacillation in regard to the contemplated
murder of his step-father; the latter had only done what Hamlet himself
would fain have done before him, but was inhibited from doing. The
contemplation of Claudius's ill deeds serves dimly to call up the buried
tendencies which at one time prompted Hamlet himself to commit a similar
atrocity--the murder of the king (his father)--for a similar end--the
possession of the queen (his mother)--and the paralysing effect of the
arousal of such feelings makes itself felt as an inability to carry out
the punishment of one with whom he thus has much in common, and whom he
feels to be in a sense no worse than himself, the would-be punisher.
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