The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
The dissociation between the more purely sexual constituents of love and
the elements of esteem, reverence and tenderness which is originally
brought about in the manner indicated by Freud, probably owes much of
its prevalence and importance in later life to the fact that, once
established, it is very apt to be strengthened and maintained by certain
of the conditions under which the development of a youth's sexual
knowledge is liable to occur. Among the most important of these conditions
are the two following:
[Sidenote: Masturbation]
(1) The first actual experience of acute sensory pleasure of a sexual kind
about the time of puberty is very frequently associated with the act of
masturbation, which in its turn is often accompanied by visual phantasies
in which the rôle of sexual partner is played by women or girls known
to the boy. As masturbation itself is usually carried on in the face of
considerable psychic opposition, being looked upon as sordid, disgusting
or injurious to health, there is not unnaturally a reluctance to bring
into connection with this manifestation of the sexual impulse any woman
or girl who is sincerely and profoundly loved, esteemed or honoured;
those introduced into the masturbation phantasies being therefore such
who, while not devoid of superficial sexual attractiveness, nevertheless
display some real or supposed inferiority (as regards beauty, virtue,
social standing or what not), as a result of which they make no appeal to
the boy's sense of higher moral values. Through frequent repetition of
this process, women of an inferior type come to be firmly associated with
the more directly sexual aspects of love, from which women who are looked
upon with tenderness or veneration are correspondingly dissociated, lest
these dear objects of affection should be sullied by being brought into
contact with what the boy regards as dishonourable, lewd or filthy[130].
[Sidenote: Prostitution]
(2) At a later stage of development the original dissociation thus
reinforced is frequently still further strengthened by the association (in
thought or deed or both) of sexual practices with prostitutes--a class
of women whom the youth is himself prepared to condemn because of the
already existing connection in his mind between inferiority and sex, and
as regards whose condemnation from the moral point of view he, as a rule,
finds ample corroboration in the opinions expressed or implied by those
around him.
[Sidenote: Effect of the dissociation on marriage]
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