The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
(5) Another factor of great importance in mental and moral development,
as regards which the early direction of love on to the parents plays
an important part, is one to which we have already often had occasion
to refer--the development of object love as distinct from the more
primitive levels of sexuality manifested in Autoerotism and Narcissism.
The full social and ethical implications of this change are not yet
completely understood--the whole subject of the Narcissistic trends
and their manifestations, normal and abnormal, having only recently
been studied by the psycho-analytic method--but it is abundantly clear
that these are of very considerable significance. Failure to carry out
the change successfully would seem to bring with it almost inevitably
certain grave defects of character, involving an exaggerated egoism and a
correspondingly deficient altruism; defects which must seriously detract
from the social value of the individual, and which when present in large
numbers of the population, must imperil the success or even the existence
of the social organism. It is essential therefore that the stage of
object-love should become firmly established in at least a majority of
individuals if society is to prosper, and, as we have seen, the transition
from Autoerotism to object-love is under normal human conditions brought
about in connection with the child's relations to its parents. How indeed
could this transition be more easily and surely achieved than through
this relationship--at once the earliest, the most necessary and, in many
ways, the most intimate which the individual ever knows? Through the
affection which the child feels towards those who supply its elementary
needs, it learns the meaning of attachment to an object outside itself--an
attachment which, in its further development, leads to the tendency to
seek the goal of effort and desire in the outer world rather than in
intimate connection with the self, the tendency upon which all altruism
is ultimately based. Just as the early awakening of the sexual impulses
ensures that these impulses shall have time and opportunity to devote the
great motive power at their disposal to the work involved in mental growth
and education, so the early arousal of object-love in connection with the
parents ensures that these impulses shall take that direction which alone
will enable the child to become a useful and a pleasant member of society.
[Sidenote: The Narcissistic love elements are also satisfied by incestuous
affection]
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