The southern literary messenger, Vol. II., No. 7, June, 1836Various
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The southern literary messenger, Vol. II., No. 7, June, 1836
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American literature -- 19th century -- Periodicals
important part, is inevitably exposed to all the danger of being
entirely perverted, by the inexperience, the unavoidable ignorance,
and the moral incapacity of such very juvenile teachers. In regard to
daughters especially, it may truly be said, that a cardinal article in
the nursery creed of multitudes of mothers is, that they _must_ marry,
and _marry early_, even without nicely weighing moral consequences, if
it cannot be done as prudence, common sense, and correct principles
would dictate. The period for going to school is thus necessarily
curtailed within limits scarcely sufficient for the simplest
elementary instruction, that the young candidates for conjugal honors
may be pushed into general society and public amusements, which are
considered the great marts for matrimonial speculations. Now, although
marriage is highly honorable, as well as the state which _may_ afford
most happiness in this life, it is indisputably true, that it can be
neither honorable nor happy, unless very many circumstances, too
frequently overlooked or disregarded, concur to make it so. It can
produce nothing but disgrace and unhappiness if contracted, as it
often is, without affection, esteem, or even respect for the husband,
who is married merely for his wealth; or, because the poor girl has
been taught to dread the condition of an old maid as something so
terrible, that it should be avoided at every hazard. Equally certain
is it that marriage can procure no happiness—nay, that it is a truly
miserable condition, without good morals, good temper, and a tender
regard among the parties. Yet thousands of unfortunate girls marry
rather than live single, simply because their parents and other
connexions have made them believe that to remain _unmarried_, is to
become objects of general derision and contempt. Even if this were
true, as it certainly is not, surely there is no rational person who
would not pronounce such a state much more bearable than a union for
life with a man who was vicious both in principles and conduct, who
was cursed with a bad temper, and incapable of any sentiment even
resembling conjugal love. A very large portion of the miserable
marriages which we see in our society, may justly be ascribed to this
most cruel—I may say, wicked error in the parental nurture of
daughters. It is too shameful to be acknowledged by any as committed
by {439} themselves; yet there is not a person probably in the United
States who cannot cite many instances of it in others.
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