The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)Crooke, William
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The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)
Crooke, William
Caste -- India -- History; Hindus -- India; Tribes -- India -- History
[Marriage ceremonies.] 5. As an instance of a low caste Muhammadan
wedding that of a Dafâli may be described. The betrothal is arranged by
some friend of both parties. When both parties agree, on an auspicious
day selected by the village Pandit the bride’s father takes to the
house of the bridegroom a ring and handkerchief on her behalf. These
are accepted, and the boy’s father announces to the assembled friends
that the marriage will take place. On this the girl’s father pays two
and-a-half annas, and the boy’s father five annas, and with this sugar
is bought and served round, after being offered to God and the Prophet.
Next morning the girl’s father returns home. Some time after the boy’s
father pays a visit to the bride and makes her a present of bangles
(chûri), a suit of clothes (tul kapra), a boddice (choli), and some
sweets. After a meeting of the tribesmen the wedding day is fixed. Poor
people, however, send the girl beforehand to her husband, and any
ceremony they can afford to do is done at his house. On the day before
the wedding is the ratjaga, when the women sit up all night and spend
their time making sweet cakes (gulgula). These are offered next morning
to God and the Prophet, and to the spirits of the ancestors of the
family. They are then distributed among the guests. The bridegroom is
bathed and dressed in a yellow coat (jâma), trousers, and a turban. A
large chaplet (sehra) hangs down from head to knee. He rides to the
bride’s house followed by his friends playing on the dafla. They halt
under a tree near the village, and from there the boy’s father sends a
present of bangles, clothes, curds, oil, and henna. Then they come to
the girl’s house, where the service is read by some old man of the
tribe who can read or repeat the words. Some sugar is put close by
which is distributed among the guests, and the marriage feast,
consisting of sugar, rice, and curds, is served. This is known as
shakarâna, or “the sugar feast.” Next day the bride’s father gives
presents to her barber, bangle-maker, water-woman, and the village
watchman, and then starts for the place where the bridegroom’s party
are staying, with a basket containing vessels, grain and anything else
he can afford to give as the dowry of his daughter. He places these
before the father of the bridegroom, and asks his forgiveness for not
being able to give more. The bridegroom’s father says the same, and
they exchange compliments. After this the dowry basket is passed round,
and all the friends present contribute as far as their means will go.
This is termed “the giving of the dowry” (jahez dilâna). The husband
then takes his wife away, and when he returns home he entertains his
clansmen on curds, sugar, and rice, and next day gives them a regular
dinner of bread and meat.
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