The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)Crooke, William
History
The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)
Crooke, William
Caste -- India -- History; Hindus -- India; Tribes -- India -- History
[Marriage ceremonies.] 13. Until children are married it does not
matter from whose hand they take food: after marriage they are obliged
to conform to caste regulations. The marriage negotiations commence by
some old man of the tribe or the boy’s father going to inspect the
girl. Then the husband of the bridegroom’s sister goes to her with five
sers of liquor and two rupees, thus concluding the betrothal, which is
known among them as puchhâwat or “the asking.” If the bride’s father
accepts the proposal, he summons his clansmen and distributes the
liquor among them. At the same time they are given a dinner of goat’s
flesh and rice, which is provided by the boy’s father. After this, on a
day fixed by the girl’s father, the boy’s paternal uncle goes again
with two vessels, each containing five sers of liquor, and takes with
him three rupees in cash. This finally concludes the betrothal, which
is known as bajarâwat or “strengthening,” and barrekhi, or “the marking
down of the bridegroom.” This liquor and money are used in entertaining
the clansmen of the bride and the envoy of the bridegroom. Next the
bride’s father presses some oil with his own hands and sends it to the
boy’s house. This is mixed with turmeric, and the bridegroom is daily
anointed with it by his female relations. In the same way the boy’s
father presses some oil and sends it for the use of the bride. After
this a suitable date is fixed by mutual arrangement, and the bridegroom
comes with his procession to the door of the bride. Outside the door
the bride’s mother stands with her feet in a basket, and holds in one
hand a rice pestle (mûsal), and in the other a brass tray (thâli),
containing some cotton with the seed and a lighted lamp. She moves the
pestle five times round the boy’s head from left to right and five
times again from right to left, and pours the cotton over his head.
Next she warms her hands twice over the lamp and presses them on the
boy’s cheeks, and kisses his lips. After this the boy does salutation
(pâêlagi) to her. She then leads the bridegroom into the inner room,
where the girl sits in a corner. He sits there silent for some time. At
last some women friends who are also sitting there say,—“Give the boy
what he has come for.” Then her mother makes the bride stand up and
seats her to the left of the bridegroom. This done, the boy returns to
his friends, and the bride again retires into her corner. A couple of
hours after the pair are seated on two leaf-mats in the courtyard,
facing east. Both are stripped by the women, well rubbed with a mixture
of oil and turmeric, and dressed in new clothes. After this the boy’s
party are fed, and liquor is distributed. That night they spend in
singing and dancing the karama or national dance. Next day they meet
again, the friends of bride and bridegroom sitting in a line opposite
each other. The boy’s father produces the bridegroom before the bride’s
people; and says,—“Look! has he any physical defect?” The bride’s
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