The unwelcome child : $b Or, The crime of an undesigned and undesired maternityWright, Henry Clarke
Philosophy
The unwelcome child : $b Or, The crime of an undesigned and undesired maternity
Wright, Henry Clarke
Abortion; Sexual ethics
“When my first-born was three months old, I had a desperate struggle
for my personal liberty. My husband insisted on his right to subject
my person to his passion, before my babe was two months old. I saw his
conduct then in all its degrading and loathsome injustice. I pleaded,
with tears and anguish, for my own and my child’s sake, to be spared;
and had it not been for my helpless child, I should then have ended
the struggle by bolting my legal bonds. For its sake, I submitted to
that outrage, and to my own conscious degradation. For its sake, I
concluded to take my chance in the world with other wives and mothers,
who, as they assured me, and as I then knew, were all around me,
subjected to like outrages, and driven to the degrading practice of
abortion.
“But, even then, I saw and argued the justice of my personal rights in
regard to Maternity, and the relation that leads to it, as strongly as
you do now. I saw it all as clearly as you do. I was then, amid all
the degrading influence that crushed me, true and just in my womanly
intuitions. I insisted on my right to say when and under what
circumstances I would accept of him the office of Maternity, and
become the mother of his child. I insisted that it was for me to say
when and how often I should subject myself to the liability of
becoming a mother. But he became angry with me; claimed ownership over
me; insisted that I, as a wife, was to submit to my husband, ‘_in all
things_;’ threatened to leave me and my children, and declared I was
not fit to be a wife. Fearing some fatal consequence to my child or to
myself, being alone, destitute, and far from helpful friends, in the
far West, and fearing that my little one would be left to want, I
stifled all expressions of my honest convictions, and ever after kept
my aversion and painful struggles in my own bosom.
“In every respect, so far as passional relations between myself and
husband are concerned, I have ever felt myself to be a miserable and
abject woman. I now see and feel it most deeply and painfully. If I
was with a child in my arms, I was in constant dread of all personal
contact with my husband, lest I should have a new maternity thrust
upon me, and be obliged to wean one child before its time, to give
place to another. In my misery, I have often cried out, ‘O God! is
there no way out of this loathsome bondage?’
“It was not want of kindly feelings towards my husband that induced
this state of mind, for I could and did endure every privation and
want without an unkind feeling or word, and even cheerfully, for his
sake. But every feeling of my soul did then, does now, and ever must,
protest against the cruel and loathsome injustice of husbands towards
their wives, manifested in imposing on them a maternity uncalled for
by their own nature and most repulsive to it, and whose sufferings and
responsibilities they are unprepared and unwilling to meet.
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