The _new mother_, as the doctrine of evolution and the true woman
movement have created her, stands with deep veneration before the mystic
depths she calls her child, a being in whom the whole life of mankind is
garnered. The richer the nature of the child is, the more zealously she
endeavours to preserve for him that simplicity which he needs, and at
the same time to provide for him the material that will enable him to
work for himself. She insures to the child the pleasures adapted to his
age, pleasures which at no later time can be enjoyed so intensely. The
effect upon him of his playfellows and books, of nature, art, music,
conversation, of the entire home _milieu_ which the child receives,
above all the influence of the personality and interests of the father
and mother—all these the mother who is an artist in education observes
in order to learn the natural proclivity of the child and then _directly
to strengthen and encourage_ it. At the same time she endeavours to find
out what _restraints_ are necessary _in order that the natural bent be
not impeded in its growth by secondary qualities_. But the new type of
mother does not seek to _eradicate_; she recognises the likeness between
wheat and tares. The Christian education, which has thus far prevailed,
has exercised a restraining oppression or has done violence to the
“sinful nature,” which must be broken and bent; this education was
dermatological, not psychological, in method.
The new mother is especially characterised by the fact that she has
rejected this earlier method. She allows her child, within certain
bounds, full freedom, and demands, beyond those bounds, unconditional
obedience. She helps the child to find for himself ever nobler motives
for repression. This she can do because from the very beginning she has
taken care of him; year by year she has persevered in the effort to
establish good habits; she has tried to enlist as aids, food, bath, bed,
dress, air, and play in the effort to keep him strong, sound, sexually
pure—conditions fundamental to the whole later conduct of life. Such a
methodical physical care _can_ be performed by the mother herself,
while, on the other hand, in the first years of childhood paid hands
might, through carelessness, stupidity, cruelty, laxity, or
over-indulgence, destroy the glorious possibilities. If the prevention
of _the possibilities of nature being warped or destroyed_ constituted
all that a mother could give, this one task would, nevertheless, be more
important than any social relief work.
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