The modern woman who before her marriage was independent, owing to her
work, abhors the thought of a request for money—this most painful moment
even in the happiest marriages—to so great a degree that this aversion
determines the wife in some cases to keep up her own work. If on the
contrary she has given this up, the consciousness of her earlier
independence makes her often so sensitive that she feels herself injured
by a protest however delicate in regard to the expenditure of money.
More than one man has regretted, in consequence of the unreasonable
demands of his wife, that he ever begged her to give up her own work.
There are women, on the other hand, who continue their work and thereby
only increase the incapability of a good-for-nothing man. In such cases,
it avails little that in many countries the law now allows the wife free
disposal of the income from her labour. Notwithstanding this, the
assertion is ridiculous that “if the man drinks up the money of his wife
it is with her consent,” and “it is therefore of no avail to alter the
law.” For it makes a significant difference in the relative position of
the man and wife whether the law gives him the _right_ to it, or whether
he takes it by force. But in this as in other cases, the woman movement
obviously cannot free women so long as they are impelled by unconscious
forces from within to actions and sacrifices at variance with their
conscious personality. The one thing which the woman movement has
already achieved and can continue to achieve, is that the undue
encroachment of the men ceases to have legal protection.
It is undeniable, on the other hand, that the unmarried woman’s personal
and economic independence fashions wives who in marriage show themselves
in a high degree egotistic, but who yet incessantly scold about man’s
egotism, wives who themselves exhibit very little devotion and fine
feeling, but place very great importance upon consideration. These wives
were the ones whom fifty years ago men called “graters.” But the lack of
amiability, which in certain women was usually due to childbirth, has
nevertheless in modern woman, at least during the freedom of her
girlhood, been unrestrained habit. Her firm—and just—decision not to be
“subservient” to her husband has resulted in, first, an armed peace,
later, a war, in which the wife’s work is one of the projectiles. “I
have my work, why should I stay here to be used up and tormented?” she
asks herself. And when such questions begin, there is usually but one
answer.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
Reviews
Reviews
No reviews yet
Be the first to share your thoughts on this work.
Elsewhere in the archive
Join the Discussion
Join the discussion
Sign in to leave a comment or review.
Sign InorCreate an account