entertained; and the courtship is seldom arrested at this early stage.
When his horse has been off-saddled he is invited into the front room,
and if his visit be much approved of his steed may be offered a feed of
mealies or oats, an indication which he may accept as most favourable.
When he has seated himself in the front room, the house-mother in her
elbow-chair proceeds to inquire after the health of his relatives, and
if she now meets him for the first time inquires the number of his
brothers and sisters, and questions him gravely on other points of
personal and family history of the same nature, which is considered a
polite attention. There are from time to time slight creakings of the
door of the bedroom in which the daughters are attiring themselves,
as one or other attempts to peep through the crack in the boards, or
to hold it slightly ajar. If there be two of marriageable age, they
both put on their best new gowns and tie fresh handkerchiefs round
their throats; and if they be so fortunate as to remember to bring the
cocoa-nut oil into the room, they heavily dress their hair with it.
Just as the Kaffir maid is bringing the lights into the front room
they appear, and shake hands with the stranger, who silently rises
and extends his fingers, and they both proceed about their evening
duty, preparing the coffee and supper; but in doing so both find it
necessary to return frequently to look for something in the little wall
cupboard in the front room, or to fetch some article from the sleeping
apartments which open out of it. The young man sits on the sofa and
turns his riding-whip round and round, answering the house-mother's
questions or sitting silent, but keenly noting the differing figures
or other points of resemblance or difference between the sisters.
By-and-by, when the family gather round the supper table, the elder
girls, more especially the eldest, wait on them; the children keep
their eyes fixed on the stranger as they eat, and the young man looks
into his plate and eats silently, or answers questions from the
house-father, but notes all that takes place. When supper is ended
the family return to the front room; and the young children troop off
to bed one by one. Then comes the hour of trial if the young man be
bashful and unused to courtship: for having made up his mind which
daughter he desires to pay his attention to, it is now necessary he
should request the parents' permission to sit up with her. If either
the parents or the young lady object, which latter is seldom the
case, there is a refusal and the courtship is nipped in this, its
very first phase: if they consent the mother frequently gets out, or
allows the daughter to get out, a couple of tallow candles, which are
to be burnt during the night. Then, when the rest of the family have
retired, the maiden of his choice comes in and seats herself beside him
on the sofa. From time to time there are creakings at the different
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