'Abd al-Rahman Khan, Amir of Afghanistan, -1901; Afghanistan -- History; Kabul (Afghanistan)
Excepting in the case of boy and girl betrothals among people of high
rank, which are arranged by the heads of the families, or when a young
man’s relations arrange which woman he shall marry, it is usual for
a man when he desires another wife to make known his wishes to his
friends and his intention soon becomes public property. He then receives
overtures from men with marriageable daughters, and the discussions with
one and another are no light matter, for the prospective father-in-law
expects money or kind in exchange for his daughter, and the beauty and
qualities of the said daughter being an unknown quantity, the man is not
inclined to be either liberal or rash. However, when the proceedings
have at length assumed so much headway that the man is satisfied with
the standing of the family the girl belongs to, and the family’s future
prospects, and considers that the father of the girl has reduced his
demands to the lowest fraction, he then sends his female relatives to
inspect the cause of the trouble, and on their verdict, other things
being satisfactory, concludes the bargain. When all the bargaining is
over the ceremony of betrothal takes place, followed sooner or later by
the marriage ceremony.
The marriage ceremony depends for splendour and feasting upon the wealth
and standing of the families of the contracting parties. With members
of the royal family and people of high rank, it means a three days’
tamasha, with the feasting of a great number of relatives and friends,
and expenditure of further money in dancing-girls, bands, and other
things. Although the expenditure varies according to the wealth of the
persons concerned, in all cases the greatest splendour consistent with
the rank of the contracting parties is aimed at, even if money must be
borrowed to give a good show off, and in this they do not differ much
from people nearer London. When the marriage ceremony is completed, the
bride is carried in a sort of sedan chair to the bridegroom’s house, and
the bridegroom, together with many of his relations and friends riding
on horseback, accompany her, carrying guns, which they fire as they go
along, while in front of them goes a drum and fife band with men dancing
and pirouetting in front of it. The shooting of guns is a relic of older
times when a man with the aid of his friends had to obtain his bride by
force of arms or some stratagem, and then carry her away in front of his
saddle while her relatives pursued them.
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