A. If they are ignorant of the matter without any fault on their part, God will not hold them responsible for such ignorance. By providential circumstances many are, without adverting to it, in the state of life in which God wants them to be. Q. What is to be said of those who, having opportunities, give this subject little or no thought? A. We answer with St. Alphonsus: "In the world this doctrine of vocation is not much considered by some persons. They think that it is all the same whether they live in the state to which God calls them, or in that which they choose of their own inclinations; and therefore so many live bad lives and damn themselves. But it is _certain_ that this is the principal point with regard to the acquisition of eternal life. He who disturbs this order, and breaks this chain of salvation, shall not be saved." Q. What is the remarkable saying of St. Gregory Nazianzen on this subject? A. St. Gregory Nazianzen says: "I hold that the choice of a state of life is so important that it decides, for the remainder of our lives, whether our conduct shall be good or bad." CHAPTER III. MATRIMONY--IS IT A VOCATION? Q. How do you prove that matrimony is a vocation? A. Matrimony is a fixed manner of living, established by Almighty God: "What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder." St. Paul, speaking of matrimony, says: "This is a great sacrament; but I speak in Christ and in the Church." Q. If matrimony is a vocation from God, why are many married people unhappy? A. Because many of these people do not correspond with the graces of this state; some enter it without the proper motives, others embrace it without being called to it by Almighty God. Q. Is a special vocation necessary in order to secure salvation in the marriage state? A. Most certainly, because the state itself is from God, and a person's consort should be the choice of God: "Houses and riches are from parents: but a prudent wife is _properly from the Lord."_ God made special choice of Rebecca to be the wife of Isaac: "Let the same be the woman whom the _Lord hath prepared for_ my master's son." Sara was God's choice as the wife of young Tobias: "The God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob be with you, and may _He join you_ together, and fulfil His blessing in you." Q. Can you give a Scripture example illustrating this doctrine more forcibly? A. Yes; when the Angel Raphael advised young Tobias to take Sara for his wife, Tobias answered: "I hear that she hath been given to seven husbands, and they all died; moreover, I have heard that a devil killed them. Now I am afraid, lest the same thing happen to me also."