Another bad effect of superstition on education is the absence of
instruction about the facts of sex. The main physiological facts
ought to be taught, quite simply and naturally, before puberty, at
a time when they are not exciting. At puberty, the elements of an
unsuperstitious sexual morality ought to be taught. Boys and girls
should be taught that nothing can justify sexual intercourse unless
there is mutual inclination. This is contrary to the teaching of the
Church, which holds that, provided the parties are married and the man
desires another child, sexual intercourse is justified however great
may be the reluctance of the wife. Boys and girls should be taught
respect for each other’s liberty; they should be made to feel that
nothing gives one human being rights over another, and that jealousy
and possessiveness kill love. They should be taught that to bring
another human being into the world is a very serious matter, only to
be undertaken when the child will have a reasonable prospect of health,
good surroundings, and parental care. But they should also be taught
methods of birth-control, so as to insure that children shall only come
when they are wanted. Finally, they should be taught the dangers of
venereal disease, and the methods of prevention and cure. The increase
of human happiness to be expected from sex-education on these lines is
immeasurable.
It should be recognized that, in the absence of children, sexual
relations are a purely private matter, which does not concern either
the State or the neighbours. Certain forms of sex which do not lead to
children are at present punished by the criminal law: this is purely
superstitious, since the matter is one which affects no one except the
parties directly concerned. Where there are children, it is a mistake
to suppose that it is necessarily to their interest to make divorce
very difficult. Habitual drunkenness, cruelty, insanity are grounds
upon which divorce is necessary for the children’s sake quite as
much as for the sake of the wife or husband. The peculiar importance
attached, at present, to adultery is quite irrational. It is obvious
that many forms of misconduct are more fatal to married happiness than
an occasional infidelity. Masculine insistence on a child a year, which
is not conventionally misconduct or cruelty, is the most fatal of all.
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