With the Empress Dowager of ChinaCarl, Katharine A. (Katharine Augusta)
History
With the Empress Dowager of China
Carl, Katharine A. (Katharine Augusta)
China -- Court and courtiers; Cixi, Empress dowager of China, 1835-1908; Empresses -- China -- Biography
As long as the Manchu girl remains unmarried, she is a veritable power
in the household. She ranks as high as her brother, and always takes
precedence of her brother’s wife, even if that wife be double her age
and married before she was born. She precedes her mother even, as she
is of the Blood and her mother of “another family.” Not only has she
these social privileges, but she has well-defined legal rights. Her
father cannot make a disposition of his property without his eldest
daughter’s consent. She can go into her brother’s house, dismiss his
servants, and generally direct his affairs. Her word has more weight
as to the bringing up of her brother’s children than his wife’s, as
she is a sister, a born relation, and the wife is only an acquired
relation. When she marries, however, she becomes a member of the
family into which she marries; but even then, such is the ascendancy
of the girl in the Manchu family, even after her marriage into another
family, she often goes on dictating to her brother’s family and her
own as before, if she does not find her own household duties and her
own family sufficient occupation to keep her from doing so. Such is
the force of consanguinity among the Manchus, and the position of the
daughter in the family.
The unmarried Manchu girl has not only this liberty in her family, but
she has more liberty in the outside world than any other Oriental woman.
They are not so restricted in their social intercourse as any other
Oriental women, and while they are not so literary as the Chinese, they
have more social qualities and are brighter conversationalists, being
both witty and gay.
They are not forced to marry against their inclinations and some remain
single to the end of their days, or marry late in life if they so
desire. These unmarried ladies are not only looked up to by their own
families, but they are not regarded as being objects of commiseration
by the world at large. On the contrary, they are rewarded with
triumphal arches and splendid monuments if they have passed a long
and exemplary life of maidenhood. Although the brides that came into
the Palace were generally young, one who came to make her bow to the
Empress Dowager, while I was there, was a lady of forty-two summers.
She had brought up two or three families of brothers’ children and
directed their households; but she finally succumbed to the charms of a
wealthy official, who had lost his wife two years before and who had a
number of children on which she could continue to practise her theories
as to their bringing up. Had she held out longer and died a maiden, she
might have had an arch built to her memory after death and gone down to
posterity.
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