Whatever the faults of Livia may have been, no shadow rested on her
womanly honor. Probably she had no choice when, at eighteen, the
emperor took her from her husband--who found it best to submit amiably
where the caprices of his sovereign were concerned--and made her his
wife, this complaisant but elderly soldier of culture and influence
acting as her father or guardian in the ceremony, and dying soon after.
If he bore any ill will it does not appear, as he left his two children
to the care of his successor. At the same time, Augustus sent away his
own wife, the too jealous and exacting mother of Julia, on the day of
his daughter’s birth. The only failing of Scribonia seems to have been
that she was imperious and did not bear her wrongs with sufficient
equanimity.
This new union lasted fifty-two years, and the last recorded words of
the husband were, “Livia, farewell, and do not forget our love.” To
some one who asked her how she retained her influence so long, she
replied: “That comes from my moderation and my honesty. I have done
with joy all that he wished, without trying to meddle with his affairs
or showing the least jealousy as to his infidelities, which I never
seemed to see.” As a recipe for the management of husbands the last
might be open to grave objection, from a woman’s point of view, but it
was the undisputed privilege of Roman men, indeed of all men in early
times,--to say nothing of later ones,--to be made comfortable under any
circumstances; and they made no pretense to morality. As to meddling,
Livia evidently did it as though she did it not, as it was well known
that she tempered the harshness of her husband and modified many of his
stern decrees.
Perhaps a better explanation of his devotion might have been found in
the rare union of beauty and intelligence with the domestic virtues
which he took so much pleasure in extolling. In the waning of her
personal charms, she took care not to lose the attractions of a
versatile intellect and agreeable manners, also to sheathe in velvet
the delicate, closely welded chains of daily habit. She knew how to
submit and she knew how to rule. Since life is always a series of
compromises, perhaps its finest art lies just here. Maintaining the
traditions of her sex, she wove and made her husband’s clothes. As
she had six hundred or more attendants to fold her own garments and
minister to her comfort, it is not likely that these domestic duties
weighed very heavily. Doubtless a little supervision sufficed for a
great deal of credit. A well-managed household does not imply doing
things one’s self so much as the knowledge and ability to put the
machinery in running order; and Livia was before all things executive,
which has much more to do with brains than with virtues.
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