thin shadow of a spectre. But she knows the man whose love is as a robe
of purple or a diadem of rubies cannot be for her alone, wholly hers.
[Illustration: FISHER WOMAN OF SIND]
To the woman, however, marriage is the incident of all incidents, that
one action to which all else in life--even the birth of her first
male-child--is subsidiary and subordinate. She goes to her mate, in
shyness and modesty, as to one who for the first time shall make
her truly woman. At his touch the whole world changes and the very
birds and flowers, the seas, the stars, and the heaven above, put
on a different colour and murmur a new music. In a moment the very
constitution of her body alters and her limbs take nobler curves and
her figure blooms to a new splendour. Her mind and emotions grow: and
the dark places which she had feared are seen to be sun-lit and lofty.
Marriage is to her more than an incident, however revolutionary. It
is rather the foundation of a new life, indeed a new life itself. For
her, henceforth, her whole existence is but the one fact of being
married. It is her career, her profession, her study, her joy, her
everything. She lives no longer in herself but rather as her man’s
wife. “Half-body,” the Sanscrit poets say, not untruly of the married
woman.
In India, even more than in Europe, certainly more than in Northern
Europe, marriage is to a woman everything. In early childhood she
becomes aware, gradually and almost unconsciously, of the great central
facts of nature. She lives in a household in which, along with the
earning of daily bread, all talk freely of marriages and the birth
of children. When a brother or sister is born, she is not excluded,
and no one tells her tales of mysterious storks or cabbages. As she
grows older, she hears the stories of Sita, the divine wife, and of
Sakuntala, the loved princess: and the glowing winds of spring and the
burning sun help to bring her to a quick maturity. Around her she sees
her girl friends given in marriage to flower-crowned boy bridegrooms,
brought on gold-caparisoned horses with beating of drums and bursting
fire-works and much singing to the bridal bower and the sacred fire.
She learns of widowhood and the life-long austerities imposed on a
woman whose sin-haunted destiny drags her husband to the grave. In the
household prayers she sees that her father needs her mother at his side
for the due offering of oblations and the completion of the ritual. Of
a woman unmarried, not a widow, she never hears and the very notion can
hardly frame itself on the mirror of her mind. No wonder that, with her
earliest reflections, she bends her thoughts upon the husband that is
to come and to be her lord, to whom she will hold herself affianced by
the will of God through all the moving cycle of innumerable deaths and
existences.
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