Yet fully to estimate the value of her life, it would be necessary also
to watch the Indian woman in her performance of a mother’s functions.
The strength of her desire for children, the warmth and selflessness
of her affection, the extent of her care and teaching, her readiness
or unwillingness herself to learn the needs of childhood, above all,
the place in her heart that she affords her children--all these are
factors which should be not merely weighed or analyzed but actually
felt by a creature intuition. But only another woman could have such
comprehension or attain such intuition. No man--even in regard to the
women of his own country, where he is illuminated by the examples of
his mother and his wife--could have the needed sympathy, the necessary
similarity of feeling, to comprehend the woman’s emotions to the child
she bears and over whose growth she watches. It would be impossible to
attempt the task in a foreign country of women by whose side one has
not grown from infancy.
Some points, however, which lend themselves to any observation,
may be noted, all the more since they have not infrequently led to
misunderstanding. It is the case undoubtedly that every Indian woman,
whatever her rank or race, has a clamorous wish to bear children, above
all a son, for her husband’s sake. “How many children have you?” is
the first question every woman asks another. In order to get children
they go on pilgrimages and tolerate austerities, they give alms to
beggars and are deluded by impostors. A childless woman becomes only
too readily the butt of scorn and even of her own self-reproach. Not
to have borne a son is to the Indian woman to have missed her vocation
and have failed in life. She has a certainty of belief--“She knows”
she would say--that it is her function, even hers, to have children;
and if she be fruitful, she counts herself blessed. From these data,
it has often been inferred that Indian women in all classes have an
overpowering desire for motherhood and are especially mastered by the
maternal instinct. But that this inference is wholly just, may well be
doubted.
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