In the upper classes at least it must be admitted that the woman wishes
for children because of reasoned and intelligible motives, and that
these motives are so strong as to overcome any instinctive passions.
And a will moved by a mere calculation of reason may be as powerful as
and even more effective than an act of will which, really responds to a
deep and eternal, unreasoned, self-creating emotion. The Indian woman
at any rate has every reason to desire to be a mother, above all the
mother of a son. Hindu science and philosophy have never hidden from
her that, regarded as a living being merely like any other animal, her
primary function is to continue the race. And religion has impressed
this teaching upon every mind by the legend that a man’s soul can be
released from the torments which follow death only by the prayers
and ritual of a living son. Moreover, she fears that barrenness may
impose the presence of a second wife, a rival in that love to which,
after all, she gives first place. Then, again, the end may prove to be
subjection to another woman’s son, heir to his mother’s hatreds. Or at
the best there is the pressure of religious faith--to think herself
accursed, if she has no child, while even her husband may in time
shrink from her as from a being judged by the doom of God. All these
are motives which can be weighed by the intellect but which move desire
and will-power. Yet their action does not in itself show that the
instinct of maternity is strong beyond the usual.
It is true of course that little girls in India in their games are
accustomed to play at being mothers and cook for imaginary children
and put their dolls to bed, and in a word play as girls do all over
the world. But so they play also at being wives and greeting their
husbands and bowing to a mother-in-law. When it is considered how
early they learn the secrets of life and how few their other games and
amusements can be, it is hardly astonishing that motherhood should
enter soon in their thoughts and pastimes. But the European child is
at least as ready to play with dolls and as fond of mothering her pets
with a mimicry to which her instincts call her. Where the European girl
differs is that marriage enters little into her thoughts and games,
love in any real sense hardly at all; whereas the Indian girl from
childhood has her mind filled with glad anticipations, and responds
to the name of marriage with a ready and not altogether unconscious
emotion. Even from the example of the child, then, the inference would
rather be that the instinct for love is quickly developed than that the
maternal instinct is stronger than in other peoples.
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