There are considerations of many kinds which go to show that the desire
for love is first in the Indian woman’s heart, at least in the higher
and better nurtured classes. In England for instance it is really now
the case--largely owing to the defects of a highly artificial education
and partly from the evils produced by bad economic conditions--that
there are quite a number of women who would desire to be mothers
but who actually look upon marriage and love as a distasteful and
unpleasant preliminary. Such a perversion of view, it can at once
be said, is unknown in India--not only unknown indeed, but even
inconceivable. Every woman may wish for a child, but she wishes first
and above all for the blessing of a loving husband, and she desires
the child mainly to satisfy and conciliate the man to whom she gives
herself joyfully.
Again it is striking that the whole long record of Indian literature
contains hardly one picture of a mother’s love, and is dumb even
about the longing at her heart for a child. Erotic poetry is full and
voluminous and the love of man and woman is sung in burning words in
thousands of lyrics, while it is also depicted with a more objective
grandeur in numerous epics. Hardly any European literature, at least
since Alexandria, can vie with this literature of love in volume and
intensity. But in the poetry of the West, mother’s love has had its
honoured place. In the letters of India it is almost absent.
It is sometimes suggested in India, and it may perhaps be true, that
in the castes which allow divorce, a mother’s affection for her child
is a passion stronger than her love for her husband. It would indeed
sometimes seem in those classes that she would more readily choose to
sacrifice the father than the child. But it does not follow that the
cause lies in the freedom of divorce, even though it be a factor which
co-operates in the result. For in practice the Hindu castes which allow
divorce are almost all of the lower class--in some cases not much above
the savage, ignorant, of a slow sensibility, unstimulated by the arts
and luxuries of civilization. Their passions have not yet much refined
above the elemental. For that fine and ennobling love which is the
fruit of advanced culture they have not yet developed the capacity. But
the maternal instinct remains among them in all its primitive strength.
And it has not to divide its sovereignty with the emotions of a later
culture. Relatively its force is greater, because undivided.
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