A marriage of this kind, so solemn and so sacramental, cannot in the
lifetime of its partakers be severed or dissolved. Only the will of
God, executed by the cold scythe of Death, can grant a divorce. Until
death come, the pair is inevitably joined, to labour and pray together,
and to engender and bear the children who in time shall release
their parents’ souls from the purgatory of unfulfilled duties. The
Hindu theory is a deduction from two principles, one, the unreality
of individual appearance, the second, the unworthiness of sensuous
illusion.
Marriage is a union of ephemeral beings for the sake of family and
community, and for the attainment of a worshipful elevation over
sense and the world of illusion. It is at once a consecration and
an initiation. The absence of that strong sexual passion which we
have clad in the jewelled veils of poetry and have baptized in the
romantic waters of love is not to the Brahman eye an impediment or a
disappointment. At the most the hope is for an ordered affection and a
disciplined devotion.
But the facts of human nature cannot with impunity be ignored. Ideals
based on a non-natural order of things may inspire noble poetry: but
they must fail when they are applied to large bodies of men and women.
Contracts founded upon causes and effects that are traced by reason can
be applied without much hindrance and at any rate without hypocrisy by
all those who can recognize facts. But there are few who are worthy of
or can benefit by a sacrament. The Hindu spirit has created splendid
images and has embodied in literature the characters of Sita and of
Damyanti, the wife who is all devotion and sacrifice, nobly courageous,
nobly patient. But, by its very distance from actuality, it leads in
the practice of every day to great hypocrisy and unnecessary hardship.
The danger has been foreseen by the lawgivers themselves: and they
have not dared to apply their ideal, even in theory, to others than
the highest castes of the hierarchy. For the warrior, the cultivator,
and the menial classes they have allowed different practices and
divergent ideals. Even in the practice of those Brahmans, to whom the
system should apply in its entirety, considerable concessions have
been authorized. In the unauthorized acts of every day life there
are even greater deviations. In one sense, of course, it may be said
that the theory of the highest Hinduism in regard to marriage is one
and indivisible; but marriage is, after all, the concrete contact and
companionship of a living, feeling man and woman, and the application
of the theory an affair of national character. Race and climate and the
influences of history have played their part in the Indian Continent
at least as much as in other regions of equal area. Even in the
priestly Brahman caste, the Brahman of the Deccan is as different from
him of the Punjáb as an Italian Marchese could be from a Prussian Graf.
They come from different strains, they live in different surroundings:
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