It will take much longer than your lifetime (and I personally hope, in spite of the wrath I shall excite in stating this,--much longer than many lifetimes) to change the nature of men. So do not let us bother over these abstract points, but accept men as they are, dear, attractive, selfish darlings! with generous hearts and a quite remarkable faculty for playing fair in any game. So you must play fair also, and try to understand the rules and follow them. If the husband you select has a stronger character than you have, and if he is also extremely desirable to other women, the only way you will be able to keep him through all the years to come will be by being invariably sweet, loving, and gentle to him, so that, no matter what tempers and caprices he experiences in his encounters with the many others of your sex who will fling themselves at his head, he will never have a memory but of love and peace at home. Never mind _what_ he does, supposing you really love him and want to keep him, this is the only method to use. It may even seem to bore him at the end of about the first two years, but continue. If he is young and handsome and attractive he must have his fling, and you should let him have whatever tether he requires, while you influence him to good and beautiful things, and always know and feel certain in your heart that the intense magnetic force of your love and sweetness will inevitably draw him back the moment the outside fascination palls. These preliminary remarks, I dare say, are calculated to provoke the fiercest argument among many girls; but wait, Caroline, until I have finished explaining the reasons and dissecting the aspects, keeping in view our end--common sense and happiness. You must tell me if these things interest you before next month, when I will write again. Because now I must end this letter. Your affectionate Godmother, E. G. IV FEBRUARY, 1913. I am so glad, my dear Caroline, to hear that you were interested in my last letter. It is an important subject--marriage--and one I want more fully to discuss with you. No one accomplishes any rôle successfully without some preparatory training--and the rôle of a married woman requires a good deal of thought bestowed upon it before it should be undertaken.