Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
Waywardness results not so much from the effects of heredity as
from lack of training. Wrong training, lack of training, and bad
environment are the great, compelling influences toward delinquency,
which overshadow all other causes of juvenile waywardness; and for such
causes parents are directly and primarily responsible.
This is a severe indictment of parents, but not more severe than the
consequences of their neglect of duty warrant. Many parents act on
the presumption that their obligation is fulfilled by supplying the
child with food, clothing, shelter, and school, forgetting the equally
important duty of developing his moral and spiritual nature. Such
conditions are usually the result of indifference, a sin of omission,
and only rarely do they result from bad precept and example.
In the larger number of cases, the wayward parent is such because
of ignorance of the scope of his duty, or because of his delegation
of moral and religious training to the school or some other agency
not fully equipped for the task. It is seldom that a parent does not
earnestly desire high moral character in his offspring. He hopes
in a blind, inchoate way that his son will become a well-rounded
man--physically, mentally, morally, socially, spiritually. By what
means that hope is to fructify he does not know. He is groping in the
dark, hoping against hope that the miracle of evolution will result in
perfection, without the employment of the methods and agencies at his
command which will assist to that end.
The first step, then, in the training of the boy is the training of
the parent. And what applies to the father usually applies, with less
force, to the mother.
When we reclaim wayward parents, we shall reclaim wayward boys. The
first step toward reclamation is the awakening of their sense of
responsibility--the driving home of the consciousness of stewardship.
“Am I my brother’s keeper?” has still stronger application to the
father and the mother of a son. Yours is the responsibility for
the child’s presence in the world; yours is the responsibility for
supplying the conventional comforts on which physical life depends;
but still more emphatically yours is the responsibility of furnishing
the guiding hand which will pilot the frail bark of youth through the
storm and stress of adolescence. During infancy he is anchored in the
harbor of home, surrounded by love and physical comfort; during early
boyhood his bark is drifting on the current toward the sea; while the
dawn of adolescence plunges him into an unknown and uncharted ocean,
without rudder or compass by which to avoid the sunken reefs of danger
and the rocks which wreck the development of character. The morally
obligatory duty of child-culture must be encouraged, revived, trained,
and put into operation.
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