Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
What of the boy, under these conditions, who tells a lie? An inquiry
into the motives which prompt his falsehoods may clarify the problem
and afford a solution. The study of a large number of untruthful boys
has developed the fact that their motives for mendacity are few and are
usually comprehended under one class--the desire to escape punishment
for an offense. Other and lesser incentives to lying are envy,
boasting, revenge, jealousy, and imitation, but none of these is as
potent as the fear of a reprimand, a scolding, or corporal punishment.
A scolding and a whipping are both painful--one in mind, the other in
body. It is natural for one to seek to avoid pain and suffering. It is
equally certain that punishment must inevitably follow the violation
of law--whether parental law, physical law, or the law of the land.
Loading the stomach with indigestible food brings its own punishment
in the disturbance of the bodily functions. The commission of a felony
necessitates a term of imprisonment after conviction; and with equal
certainty punishment should follow the violation of parental law.
But if that punishment is unnecessarily severe or if it violates the
boy’s sense of fairness and justice, he will seek to avoid it by the
most effective weapon of defense at hand--falsehood. Nothing is more
conducive to deceit than frequent scoldings or floggings for trivial
offenses, and the elimination of corporal and unduly severe mental
punishments will remove the chief incentive to falsehood.
The remedy for the falsehoods which have their origin in the lesser
provocatives referred to above is moral suasion, a hackneyed phrase
often used and little understood. Literally it implies the persuasive
influence of moral teaching. In its broader aspect and as a cure for
lying, it comprehends the culture of moral consciousness; training
of the will; fixation of the habit of obedience; teaching the evil
results which always follow falsehood; the development of mentality
(without which there can be no comprehension of moral concepts); and
the influence of parental example in the exact and scrupulous adherence
to truth. All these combined produce the composite result called moral
suasion, which is generally effective.
CHAPTER X
CORPORAL PUNISHMENT
Among the corrective measures used in child-training since time
immemorial, corporal punishment occupies a large and conspicuous place.
While such punishment is, at present, on the decline, still it is
sufficiently widespread and frequent in its application to warrant a
discussion of its effectiveness in accomplishng the ends desired, as
well as a word concerning its moral effect on the child.
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