Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
The infliction of corporal punishment implies the inability of the
parent to govern the child without it. It must be predicated on the
belief of the parent in its superior merits, which causes him to
submerge its humanitarian aspects beneath its supposedly utilitarian
effectiveness, or because he is unacquainted with other methods. It
would be difficult to conceive a parent who would beat a child from
personal choice when there were other corrective methods at hand which
he believed to be of equal efficiency.
The author recalls a man of high standing in the financial
world--successful in business, but cold, stern, austere and puritanical
in his personal code, who thrashed his son, from his tenth to his
fifteenth year, frequently as often as once a week. Then the boy ran
away from home to escape the tyranny and is now a wanderer over the
earth, his heart filled with bitter hatred toward his father, while the
latter deems himself a much abused parent and his son an ungrateful
and wayward boy. At no time during the many hundred beatings which
he administered did it occur to him that bodily punishment was not
a salutary corrective; he failed to realize the futility of a means
which did not accomplish the desired results. Had an analogous problem
arisen in his business, he would quickly have discarded any plan which
so thoroughly demonstrated its uselessness. This man had a profound
and earnest desire to rear his son to perfect manhood. He adopted the
method which seemed to him best designed to accomplish that result.
Today he is a broken-hearted man grieving over his lost son. Again we
hark back to the wayward parent. “Fathers, provoke not your children to
anger lest they be discouraged.” Col. 3:21.
The average child does not rebel against authority but only against
authority which he thinks is unjustly or harshly exercised. He
invariably revolts against corporal punishment because he believes any
degree of it to be excessive. From the boy’s point of view he is a
Lilliputian whom the Gargantuan parent abuses because of greater brute
strength. A fourteen-year-old boy who was being beaten by his father
for failure to perform some chore shouted in his face, “You wouldn’t
dare do that if I was as big as you.” And the boy spoke the truth. The
father who is addicted to the corporal form of punishment is deterred,
when his son approaches maturity, as much by fear of being vanquished
in the contest as by a realization of its futility as a corrective of
the later adolescent.
This form of punishment is commonly adopted to “break the will” of
the disobedient and rebellious boy. If breaking the will of the boy
means making it conform to that of the physically stronger father, the
attempt is as ineffective as it is brutal, for acquiescence under such
circumstances never is evidence of mental consent. Servile subjection
of will is out of harmony with that growth of will-power which is
necessary to the ideal development of the adolescent.
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