Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
The home is the place and the parent is the agency for
character-culture. Every father of boys ought to be a boy-expert. And
he can be, by devoting to this most important of all subjects a tithe
of the study which he devotes to his business or to his profession.
Many parents rely entirely upon instinct or natural inclinations--which
are influenced largely by mental and temperamental conditions--as their
guide in boy-training. An inactive liver too frequently determines our
attitude toward our offspring. Is it fair to the son that the parent
blindly and blunderingly pursues his natural inclinations in training
his son, instead of availing himself of the results of the research and
the thought which have already been given to this subject?
More boys go wrong than girls, of which fact the records of juvenile
courts, reformatories, and houses of detention bear ample evidence;
and they are more difficult to train, develop, and discipline than
girls. This is due to the differences in their psychological processes.
Girlhood finds ample opportunity for its development in the seclusion
of the home. The future function of the woman child is to be the
home-maker and the bearer of children, and her training for this divine
responsibility can be accomplished best amid the refining influences
and protecting care which the home affords. The future of the man
child is to be the breadwinner of the family and the burden-bearer of
civilization. The training necessary to produce such diverse results
must be as different as the respective life-works of man and woman.
Boyhood requires, among other things, adventure, rough sports and
out-of-door activities for its development. Boys are less obedient,
less tractable, and less amenable to discipline than girls, therefore
their training is correspondingly difficult and involved. We should not
expect to understand the heart and soul of the boy more easily than his
anatomy and physiology.
The boy sees things from a point of view different from that of the
adult, based on psychological differences. The mature individual cannot
obtain the boy’s viewpoint unless he is able to put himself in his
place. To do this he must know the child’s changing mental processes
and the evolution of his moral perceptions which are manifested in
the four periods of his development, in each of which he exhibits
a personality as far apart as those of four individuals of widely
differing natures. The boy at six, ten, fourteen, and eighteen years
of age is four different personalities, and he requires four different
methods of treatment. These psychological prescriptions are as
dissimilar as the medical prescriptions for boils, measles, influenza,
and typhoid. The methods and plans suited for one period are unsuited
for another. The realization of this basic truth is the first step
toward the solution of your boy’s problems.
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