A Moslem seeker after God : $b showing Islam at its best in the life and teaching of al-Ghazali, mystic and theologian of the eleventh century
Al-Ghazali · en
“It is most important to know how to bring up a boy, for a boy is a trust
in the hands of his father, and his pure heart is a precious jewel like
a tablet without inscription. It is therefore ready to receive whatever
impression is applied. If he learns to do good and is taught it, he grows
up accordingly, and is happy in this world and the next and his parents
and teachers will have the reward for their action. But if he learns evil
and grows up in neglect like the dumb cattle, he will turn away from the
truth and perish, and his sin will be on the neck of his guardian. Allah
has said, ‘O ye who believe, guard yourselves and your family from the
fire; and even as the father would guard his son from the fire of this
world, by how much the more should he guard him from the fire of the
world to come? He will guard him from it by chastising him and educating
him and teaching him the best virtues. To this end he will only give his
boy to be nursed by a good, pious woman who eats the proper food, for the
milk from forbidden food has no blessing in it.’”
He then goes on to show that the education of a child consists in
teaching him table manners, the avoidance of unclean food, gluttony and
impoliteness. He advises parents to dress their children simply and not
in costly clothing. To quote once more:
“After teaching him these things it is wise to send him to school where
he shall learn the Koran and the pious traditions, and the tales of
the righteous and their lives, in order that a love of the pious may
be imprinted in his heart; and he should be kept from reading erotic
poetry and prevented from mixing with those people of education who think
that this sort of reading is profitable and elevating, because, on the
contrary, it produces in the hearts of children the seeds of corruption.
Whenever the boy shows a good character or an act which is praiseworthy,
he must be honoured for it and rewarded, so that he will be happy; and
this should especially be done in the presence of others. If, on the
contrary, he should act otherwise once and again, it is necessary to take
no notice of it, nor to lay bare his fault, as though you imagine no one
would dare to do such a thing, especially if the boy himself conceals
it, and has determined to hide it; for exposing would only make him more
bold in the future. If he should repeat the fault, he can be punished in
secret.”
Such is the strange ethical teaching—a mingling of good and bad advice—on
the part of one who has always been considered as the pillar of
orthodoxy and one of the great authorities on Moslem morals.