Camilla; or, A Picture of Youth — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Camilla; or, A Picture of Youth
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Again, if none of these outward and obvious vicissitudes occur, the
proper education of a female, either for use or for happiness, is
still to seek, still a problem beyond human solution; since its
refinement, or its negligence, can only prove to her a good or an
evil, according to the humour of the husband into whose hands she
may fall. If fashioned to shine in the great world, he may deem the
metropolis all turbulence; if endowed with every resource for
retirement, he may think the country distasteful. And though her
talents, her acquirements, may in either of these cases be set
aside, with an only silent regret of wasted youth and application;
the turn of mind which they have induced, the appreciation which
they have taught of time, of pleasure, or of utility, will have
nurtured inclinations and opinions not so ductile to new sentiments
and employments, and either submission becomes a hardship, or
resistance generates dissention.
If such are the parental embarrassments, against which neither
wisdom nor experience can guard, who should view the filial without
sympathy and tenderness?
You have been brought up, my dear child, without any specific
expectation. Your mother and myself, mutually deliberating upon the
uncertainty of the female fate, determined to educate our girls
with as much simplicity as is compatible with instruction, as much
docility for various life as may accord with invariable principles,
and as much accommodation with the world at large, as may combine
with a just distinction of selected society. We hoped, thus, should
your lots be elevated, to secure you from either exulting
arrogance, or bashful insignificance; or should they, as is more
probable, be lowly, to instil into your understandings and
characters such a portion of intellectual vigour as should make you
enter into an humbler scene without debasement, helplessness, or
repining.
It is now, Camilla, we must demand your exertions in return. Let
not these cares, to fit you for the world as you may find it, be
utterly annihilated from doing you good, by the uncombated sway of
an unavailing, however well-placed attachment.
We will not here canvass the equity of that freedom by which women
as well as men should be allowed to dispose of their own
affections. There cannot, in nature, in theory, nor even in common
sense, be a doubt of their equal right: but disquisitions on this
point will remain rather curious than important, till the
speculatist can superinduce to the abstract truth of the position
some proof of its practicability.