Femina, A Work for Every Woman — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Femina, A Work for Every Woman
John Stuart Mill · en
Children are common objects of love and hope for both parents. Life and
health are ever changing the relations of our surroundings, and when
newly-married people put off to the dim future the hopes of rearing a
family, they are often doomed to everlasting disappointment. Nature is
capricious and jealous of her prerogatives, and those who trifle with
her functions must expect to be frustrated in the end, and have no one
but themselves to blame if she fails to respond to their capricious
wishes. Children make trouble of course, so were we as troublesome in
our time, but there is also a great deal of pleasure in watching them
grow from day to day in bodily strength and mental perception, which no
amount of selfish enjoyment can compensate.
The diseases that are brought upon women by the different practices and
mechanical devices to prevent conception are too numerous to mention in
a work of this character. Some of the methods are absolutely loathesome
to all sense of decency and reduce sexual intercourse much below the
instinctive indulgence of the brute; these debauches of the conjugal
bed not only sap the vitality of the participants, but must lower or
destroy all mutual respect, and ultimate in dissension and strife,
which the divorce court will finally assuage.
Referring to the practice of conjugal onanism or interrupted or
incomplete coitus, Dr. Franklin Devay says: “However, it is not
difficult to conceive the degree of perturbation that a like practice
should exert upon the genital system of woman by provoking desires
which are not gratified; a profound stimulation is felt through the
entire apparatus; the uterus, Fallopian tubes and ovaries enter into a
state of orgasm, a storm which is not appeased by the natural crisis;
a nervous super-excitation persists. There occurs, then, what would
take place if, presenting food to a famished man, one should snatch it
from his mouth after having thus violently excited his appetite. The
sensibilities of the womb and the entire reproductive system are teased
for no purpose. It is to this cause, too often repeated, that we should
attribute the multiple _neuroses_, those strange affections which
originate in the genital system of women. Our conviction respecting
them is based upon a great number of observations. Furthermore,
the normal relations existing between the married couple undergo
unfortunate changes; this affection, formed upon reciprocal esteem, is
little by little effaced by the repetition of an act which pollutes
the marriage bed; from thence proceed certain hard feelings, certain
deep impressions, which, gradually growing, eventuate in the scandalous
ruptures of which the community rarely know the real motive.” This is
in every respect as hurtful as the vicious practice of solitary vice,
although that is comparatively less common among young virgins than
among those of the opposite sex. Nevertheless, this is a frequent cause
of hysterical symptoms and uterine disease.