All efforts to exercise voluntary control, by prolonging the sexual act
or extending the venereal orgasm, are fraught with the most pernicious
results to the nerves, terminating in a partial or complete paralysis
of the different organs of the body, or a low grade of inflammation is
excited, which offers a fruitful soil for the development of various
diseases.
A man who has become the husband of a woman should never cease to
be a gentleman on that account, nor should he become lost to a
consideration of those delicacies of refinement, which smooth the
common relations in the exercise of daily duties.
Continence is the complete restraint from sexual indulgence, which in
its fullest sense does not apply to the married state, but it comes
within the scope of every married life to cultivate and practice it
as one of its virtues. Every married couple should be continent for
days and weeks at a time, and when one or the other is not feeling
well, abstinence should be practiced, as the rule, not only to avoid a
nervous shock, which may have serious results, but because conception
in an abnormal physical condition, will perpetuate itself in the child,
which is quite likely to inherit a nervous or sickly constitution.
When pregnancy supervenes, undue sexual excitement of the mother often
has the most serious consequences to the fetus, and may result in its
death, or induce abortion.
Diet is to be regulated, to assist a firm determination to lead a
chaste and purer life. Stimulating and highly-seasoned food, and
alcoholic beverages, are not to be used, because they increase the
circulation of the blood and stimulate the nerves to inflammatory
activity. Meat should be eaten only once a day, and the supper should
be bland and light.
Nature has set a time during which continence should be practiced for
the purpose of preserving the health and controlling the reproductive
function, that is, the menstrual period. Menstruation in women
corresponds to the ripening and discharge of the human ovule. The
aptitude for impregnation is a day or two before and six to eight days
after the courses cease. This is a rule which applies to the great
majority of women, and if the sexual relations are suspended from a few
days before the onset of the menses until six or eight days after the
flow has ceased, the chances for pregnancy are reduced to the minimum.
This physiological relation of the organic function of conception to
the sexual act is to be recommended as the most wholesome check to
reproduction in early married life, although I believe that there is no
time better calculated to raise a family than while you are young and
hopeful.