Progress and Achievements of the Colored People: Containing the Story of the Wonderful Advancement of the Colored Americans—the Most Marvelous in the History of Nations—Their Past Accomplishments, Together With Their Present-day Opportunities and a Glimpse Into the Future for Further Developments—the Dawn of a Triumphant Era. A Handbook for Self-improvement Which Leads to Greater Success
John Stuart Mill · en
It is a mistaken idea to shield children from all knowledge of misery
and suffering. It is not those who are blinded to suffering who
experience the greatest amount of joy in life, but the acme of joy comes
to those who have relieved some suffering. It is not always possible to
do great acts of charity, but it is an easy matter to give the kind word
or smile that may turn the tide which will convince some one that life
is worth while. It has been our experience that children may be taught
the elementary principles of nursing to a very great advantage. The
knowledge of diet and hygiene enables them not only to care for others,
but is applicable to their own bodily needs. The quiet step, the gentle
voice, the self-control necessary to the care of the sick, and the
respect due the physician and patient, are all good lessons in his early
moral and mental training.
CHINESE RESPECT FOR PARENTS AND AGED
We must confess that the Chinese hold a higher regard for their parents
and the aged than we do. They look upon the Western custom of the son’s
coming of age and going out into the world without regard to his
parents, or they for him in many cases, as behavior fit for the brute
and not fit for human beings. With them, as the parents are held
responsible for the conduct of the child, so the child is responsible
for the credit of the parents.
All children cannot be clever or highly intellectual, but they may all
be well trained and unselfish. A child should be taught in a mannerly
fashion and not in accordance with a story told of a mother who was
taking her well-beloved child, Tommy, to a Christmas-tree entertainment
given in a public hall. At the door of the hall she said: “Tommy, mind
your manners; smile and look pleasant, or when I get you out again I
will break every bone in your body.” As the mother is rude to her child,
in like degree she may expect rudeness from the child. A child has a
right to civility as well as the adult. General Garfield said: “I never
pass a ragged boy in the street without feeling that one day I might owe
him a salute.”
RESPECT IN THE SCHOOL ROOM
There is no surer way to teach a child to respect himself than to
respect him. Trebonius, a great schoolmaster, upon entering the
school-room was wont to lift his hat and say: “I uncover to the future
senators, counsellors, wise teachers, and other great men that may come
forth from this school.” There is no place where the respect of children
is more potent than in the school-room. The teacher who so respects
them, will in return receive that reverence and love which will make
labor pleasure instead of toil.