Progress and Achievements of the Colored People: Containing the Story of the Wonderful Advancement of the Colored Americans—the Most Marvelous in the History of Nations—Their Past Accomplishments, Together With Their Present-day Opportunities and a Glimpse Into the Future for Further Developments—the Dawn of a Triumphant Era. A Handbook for Self-improvement Which Leads to Greater Success
John Stuart Mill · en
There is not much that can be achieved in the world without knowing
conditions and requirements. So it is with the home. The family cannot
enjoy the sympathy of the mother without giving her their confidence.
The husband who confides his financial affairs to the wife will seldom
fail. Let her know the amount and source of his income; let her feel
that she is his partner and that a portion of his income is hers, and
there will be little danger of financial failure or domestic
unhappiness.
A mother’s success with her family depends upon how much she lives in
their lives and experiences; the interest she takes in each day’s
effort. Even though she cannot go with them she can enjoy their feelings
and live them all over again with them in the home. The habit of telling
mother everything which has happened during the day is not only a great
safeguard to the children, but the mother may live over her childhood
days of dolls and toys, and may enlighten her mind by reading and
studying with her bright boy and girl; may even dream the sweet love
dreams all over again as with a gentle hand and sympathetic heart she
guides her children to a life of safety and happiness.
THE DUTIES OF HUSBAND AND WIFE TO EACH OTHER
The mother’s rights are real and comprehensive. They are something not
to be disputed. Hers are the greatest in the family. These rights her
children may not in early youth be able to fully realize, but these she
must teach to them simply and must insist upon. She has rights, very
clearly defined, to be accorded by her husband, and if he hesitates she
is most unfortunate and he is most unworthy. Her dues from him are the
greatest of all. They are the greatest in the world. If she has borne
him children she has done for him the utmost that one human being can do
for another. She has, literally, given him herself. Well has it been
said that a man’s duty to a faithful wife can never end while life
lasts. “When she consented to be his helpmate and to virtually transform
every organ in her body that his lineage may not die out, that he may
have children, healthy, happy and able, she has done more for him than
he can ever repay in a lifetime of service. She has taken the chance
gladly and risked her life for him.” Under what more tremendous
obligation could she place him? She has established a right which covers
all things.