Bojedi’s argument therefore was not without plausibility, and all these
facts that I have related he marshalled to his defense very ably and
with intense feeling, as we sat there in the dark schoolhouse. It was
plain that he had thought of all this before, and that before entering
on this relationship he had argued long with his conscience as he now
argued with me. But it was also plain that he argued in his defense and
not his justification, and that he had allowed his reason to coerce his
conscience. I replied that where there was nothing outward except a
public announcement to distinguish marriage from an illicit relation,
then the announcement became a duty binding on the conscience quite as
much as a ceremony; and that if marriage be not so distinguished we have
a society of “free love.” And again, as to the inwardness of the marriage
relation, upon which he dwelt, that it implied always, whether with or
without a ceremony, a sincere intention of _permanency_. I added: “From
the regard that you have expressed for Antyandi you would probably desire
that your present relation be permanent. But desire is not sufficient
without expectation also; and you know as well as I do that when you
leave Gaboon to return to your own people Antyandi will never go with
you, and even if she should remain here she would not be true to you.
You have therefore, with full knowledge, entered into a temporary
relationship; which is no marriage in any sense that a Christian can
admit.”
As repentance is the chief act of man, so it is also the hardest. To make
the admission of wrong to me was not so hard as to admit it to himself,
with all its consequences. But at last the admission came: a moment later
he was on his knees, in tears and sobs. He said: “It is not that I cannot
give up Antyandi; it will be hard enough, but I’ll do it. But it is the
wrong I have already done and the loss to myself that I feel. These two
years while I have been teaching your school I have lived differently
from all the other years of my life. Many things that I used to do I had
stopped doing. I was happy because my heart was clean, and because the
schoolboys all loved me and believed in me. And now all that I have built
up in these two years is pulled down. And what will the boys think of me?”
It would be cruel to repeat all that was said in that conversation. He
wept until I felt that tears could do no more, and then I tried to quiet
and comfort him. It was midnight when I left him.