Besides the addition to the amount of individual talent available for
the conduct of human affairs, which certainly are not at present so
abundantly provided in that respect that they can afford to dispense
with one-half of what nature proffers; the opinion of women would
then possess a more beneficial, rather than a greater, influence upon
the general mass of human belief and sentiment. I say a more
beneficial, rather than a greater influence; for the influence of
women over the general tone of opinion has always, or at least from
the earliest known period, been very considerable. The influence of
mothers on the early character of their sons, and the desire of young
men to recommend themselves to young women, have in all recorded
times been important agencies in the formation of character, and have
determined some of the chief steps in the progress of civilization.
Even in the Homeric age, αιδως towards the Τρωαδας ἑλκεσιπεπλους is
an acknowledged and powerful motive of action in the great Hector.
The moral influence of women has had two modes of operation. First,
it has been a softening influence. Those who were most liable to be
the victims of violence, have naturally tended as much as they could
towards limiting its sphere and mitigating its excesses. Those who
were not taught to fight, have naturally inclined in favour of any
other mode of settling differences rather than that of fighting. In
general, those who have been the greatest sufferers by the indulgence
of selfish passion, have been the most earnest supporters of any
moral law which offered a means of bridling passion. Women were
powerfully instrumental in inducing the northern conquerors to adopt
the creed of Christianity, a creed so much more favourable to women
than any that preceded it. The conversion of the Anglo-Saxons and of
the Franks may be said to have been begun by the wives of Ethelbert
and Clovis. The other mode in which the effect of women's opinion has
been conspicuous, is by giving a powerful stimulus to those qualities
in men, which, not being themselves trained in, it was necessary for
them that they should find in their protectors. Courage, and the
military virtues generally, have at all times been greatly indebted
to the desire which men felt of being admired by women: and the
stimulus reaches far beyond this one class of eminent qualities,
since, by a very natural effect of their position, the best passport
to the admiration and favour of women has always been to be thought
highly of by men. From the combination of the two kinds of moral
influence thus exercised by women, arose the spirit of chivalry: the
peculiarity of which is, to aim at combining the highest standard of
the warlike qualities with the cultivation of a totally different
class of virtues--those of gentleness, generosity, and
self-abnegation, towards the non-military and defenceless classes
generally, and a special submission and worship directed towards