This must be true of all gatherings, of all except religious meetings.
The strangeness, and the hopes aroused by strangeness, are illusions.
Mirages arising wherever people gather expectantly together. The few who
at parties have not the glint of expectation in their eyes are those who
know this. Some are cynical. Some enduring. One or two ignore people as
persons. See them only as parts of a process.
It is true then, though town-life hides the fact, that individual life
cannot begin until the illusion of wonderful people presently to be met,
is vanquished. The whole world, all the scattered people brought
together and made known to each other, would soon be like this party,
each tested and placed. Even the best of them known as limited.
Then domestic life, troglodyte life, is the severest test of quality.
The coming to the end of the charm of strangeness. Of Exogamy. The
making terms and going on, or the hard work of silently discovering near
things afresh. Re-thinking them. Keeping them near, as strange things
are at first near, and, like strange things, beloved.
“What have I to do with thee?” Yes. But that was a man who had a message
for everyone in the world and very little time to get round with it. Not
the voice of one who is weary of the near in space and time and hopes to
find the distant more appreciative.
Yet even he demanded a personal allegiance. “If ye love me, keep my
commandments.” What is love? Who can interpret commandments? They all
stood round adoring, begging for explanations and instructions. Perhaps
he meant, “You admire what I am. Take my hints. You will find out the
rest.”
Wandering eyes were growing rarer, though still new-comers arrived and
toured hopefully. Groups were forming of people masked, or visibly
bored, sustaining the familiar. Wit, surrounded, was hard at work. Here
and there rival theorists were audible, disarmed by the occasion and
affably wrangling. And everyone, even the schemers circulating girt and
keen, or wearing the veil of nonchalance, waited now for the gathering
to do something of itself. For here for good or ill in the circling
Lycurgan year, was a party, and everyone counting on at least a moment’s
distraction.
How intolerable with its challenge, its throwing back the self empty on
to the self, and its revelation of the weariness of selves, would be the
whole spectacle, but for here and there a figure of sincerity bearing
the burdens of the rest, drawing nerve-poisoning influences from the
air.