Such speculations are apt to be unsettling, because they seem to show that
an institution which was thought to be a revelation from heaven, is only
the growth of history and experience. We ask what is the origin of
marriage, and we are told that like the right of property, after many wars
and contests, it has gradually arisen out of the selfishness of
barbarians. We stand face to face with human nature in its primitive
nakedness. We are compelled to accept, not the highest, but the lowest
account of the origin of human society. But on the other hand we may truly
say that every step in human progress has been in the same direction, and
that in the course of ages the idea of marriage and of the family has been
more and more defined and consecrated. The civilized East is immeasurably
in advance of any savage tribes; the Greeks and Romans have improved upon
the East; the Christian nations have been stricter in their views of the
marriage relation than any of the ancients. In this as in so many other
things, instead of looking back with regret to the past, we should look
forward with hope to the future. We must consecrate that which we believe
to be the most holy, and that 'which is the most holy will be the most
useful.' There is more reason for maintaining the sacredness of the
marriage tie, when we see the benefit of it, than when we only felt a
vague religious horror about the violation of it. But in all times of
transition, when established beliefs are being undermined, there is a
danger that in the passage from the old to the new we may insensibly let
go the moral principle, finding an excuse for listening to the voice of
passion in the uncertainty of knowledge, or the {clxxxvii} fluctuations of
opinion. And there are many persons in our own day who, enlightened by the
study of anthropology, and fascinated by what is new and strange, some
using the language of fear, others of hope, are inclined to believe that a
time will come when through the self-assertion of women, or the rebellious
spirit of children, by the analysis of human relations, or by the force of
outward circumstances, the ties of family life may be broken or greatly
relaxed. They point to societies in America and elsewhere which tend to
show that the destruction of the family need not necessarily involve the
overthrow of all morality. Wherever we may think of such speculations, we
can hardly deny that they have been more rife in this generation than in
any other; and whither they are tending, who can predict?