Be assured, lovely Clara, I interest myself no less than you in the
fate of this unfortunate couple; not out of a sentiment of compassion,
which might perhaps be only a weakness, but out of a due regard to
justice and the fitness of things, which require that every one should
be disposed of in a manner the most advantageous to himself and to
society. Their amiable minds were doubtless formed by the hands of
nature for each other. In a peaceful and happy union, at liberty to
exert their talents and display their virtues, they might have
enlightened the world with the splendor of their examples. Why should
an absurd prejudice then cross the eternal directions of nature, and
subvert the harmony of thinking Beings? Why should the vanity of a
cruel father thus _hide their light under a bushel_, and wound those
tender and benevolent hearts which were formed to sooth the pangs of
others? Are not the ties of marriage the most free, as well as the
most sacred of all engagements? Yes, every law to lay a constraint on
them is unjust. Every father, who presumes to form, or break them, is
a tyrant. This chaste and holy tie of nature is neither subjected to
sovereign power nor paternal authority but to the authority only of
that common parent who hath the power over our hearts, and, by
commanding their union, can at the same time make them love each
other.
To what end are natural conveniences sacrificed to those of opinion? A
disagreement in rank and fortune loses itself in marriage, nor doth
any equality therein tend to make the marriage state happy; but a
disagreement in person and disposition ever remains, and is that which
makes it necessarily miserable. [13] A child, that has no rule of
conduct but her fond passion, will frequently make a bad choice; but
the father, who has no other rule for his than the opinion of the
world, will make a worse. A daughter may want knowledge and experience
to form a proper judgment of the discretion and conduct of men; a good
father ought doubtless in that care to advise her. He has a right, it
is even his duty, to say “My child, this is a man of probity, or that
man is a knave, this is a man of sense, or that is a fool.” Thus far
ought the father to judge, the rest belongs of right to the daughter.
The tyrants, who exclaim that such maxims tend to disturb the good
order of society, are those who, themselves, disturb it most.
Let men rank according to their merit; and let those hearts be united
that are objects of each other’s choice. This is what the good order
of society requires; those who would confine it to birth or riches are
the real disturbers of that order; and ought to be rendered odious to
the public, or punished, as enemies to society.