Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves — John Shaqi
Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselvesSorabji, Cornelia
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Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves
Sorabji, Cornelia
India -- Social conditions; Women -- India
Even the ordinary business of the day, bathing, dressing, eating, is a
religious act.... To cook her husband’s food an orthodox Hindu wears
a special silk garment: the only gardening she ever attempts is to
water and tend the sacred basil (_Tulsi_). If she travels, it is on
a pilgrimage to this shrine or that, to bathe in this or that sacred
river. Of course she gives dinner parties as did my ten-year-old Bride,
on special occasions, or on feasts of Gods and Goddesses through
the year, also in memory of the dead; but there is no machinery of
calls, no social entertaining for entertainment sake, no interchange
of civilities to acquaint young people and make marriages. Marriages
are made by the Priests and your map of stars, not by the social
broker. For births and deaths you may have a house full of women,
your relations or “spiritual” relations, come unbidden on a visit of
congratulation or sympathy. To these you may never suggest departure,
and only innate good manners in the visitor has saved from bankruptcy
many a house in which the doors of Life and Death were often open.
This involuntary hospitality may become quite tiresome in practice. I
remember one great Feasting. It was a ceremony for the dead. A Maharani
had died, and we made her “praying-for-the-soul” budget, buying her
sinlessness for 1,000 lives at a cost of Rs. 20,000. Part of the
penalty was feeding Brahmins. Our budget provided for 3,000 guests: but
it was not etiquette to shut the gates, and when 5,000 had been fed, my
business soul did really take alarm.
“If the gates were shut by my order no ill-luck would betide the house,
would it?” I asked of her of many years, who kept our abstract of
right action. “Luck or ill-luck concern only the Believer” was her
verdict ... so my way was clear. In the courtyard great caldrons of
food were steaming. Here was one stirring the rice and ever boiling
more and yet more. On the veranda sat Brahmin cooks, cutting up red
pumpkins or brown-green _brinjals_, slicing potatoes, grinding curry
stuffs, dancing red-yellow grains of pulse in the winnowing fan. Other
Brahmins ran to and fro, serving the food as it was made ready: all
was orderly confusion, at which the women peeped from the third floor
balcony.
They were the disciples of Priests at the expense of whose appetites we
were buying merit, and they sat in rows, hungry and clamorous. Scarce
could they be served fast enough.
“But how long will they sit there?” I asked of my old Dewan.
“Till they are fulfilled,” was his delightful answer; and it gave me
courage for the shutting of the gates.
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